Men only: Seeking Boyz Club points is boyish, boorish

The ‘Boys Club’ thing came into common parlance after the death of Safcom CEO Bob Collymore last year. Some wealthy men Boy’s Clubs are for networking over golf and expensive whiskies.

They can be generally useful, especially economically, but one must be careful, even in these ones, to resist the urge to form a silly Boys’ Club based on shenzi sexual shenanigans. 

Look, I’ll admit that when one is in college, and in their early 20s, one can be excused. Truth is, in Uni, boys are still looking for their identity as men, and body counts sound heroic (never mind many of the ‘players’ are simply slandering young women they never slept with to ‘score’ points as ruthless Don Juans, with equally hapless mates).

In college, it is like the bragging rights a boy gets by boasting: ‘Man, si I kunywad for three days, straight!’ But if you are born a day before June 6, 1990, and still have this style of Boyz’ Clubs, then lads, it is time to start asking if your mum gave birth to a social retard.

Who, over 30, not just kisses and tells, but records that stuff, like you’ll get it televised? Few women will understand the mentality beneath this kinda monkey business, but this is why we have ‘Men Only,’ to unpack the male mind.

So here are Top Five reasons for BC.

1. Impress peers

There is a kind of man who is always seeking to either dominate, impress or get the approval of male friends. Enter the Boys’ Club.

Here the Alpha Male can get to rule his little Kingdom of WhatsApp, the way he does the airwaves. And his admiring buddies will blindly copy/do as he does or says, to ‘roll with da playerz.’

2. The quest for conquest

There is a very hunter/conqueror (the man) versus quarry/prey (the woman) at play here. A primitive male urge to be the one who ‘brings down’ the largest prey.

In this case it can be to bed the ‘beautifulest’ woman, or the one with most social status, or forbidden married woman, or simply the one with the hugest bottom for ‘bonga’ boasts.

3. Performance pressure

Long ago, such funny men used to just brag about their bedpost conquests. At best, they would keep a bra or panty as proof (or buy one secondhand to lie).

But with all the technology we have, one is now required to show ‘video’ evidence. And once this gets into the wrong hands, it’s in the Public Eye.

4. Competitiveness

Nothing sets a man’s competitive juices flowing like a list with ‘Number 1’ on top. I mean, men go to kill, die and be wounded in senseless wars to win a medal. And if a man’s boyz looks up to him, you can imagine how his Top Dog ranking is like blood to a shark.

5. Share and bond

Finally, in the tribal spirit of male bonding, many men have what they call a ‘through pass,’ where they get to share her when one is done, like the leftover of a soccer ball. Even as we moan this male barbarism, young women are joining the ‘club.’

A few months ago, before Corona, we were at the birthday bash of a 25-year-old. When she’d had enough to drink, she began bragging that ‘my body count is 24. Tonight it must catch up with my age!’ 

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