I slept with my father-in-law

I slept with my father-in-law

I had been married to my husband for a year, but it was a struggle as he only married me because I got pregnant. His parents further complicated the matter by insisting we wed. We always fought. It was so bad that we had to separate in August 2015 until further notice. His family has been very good to me, especially his father. Even after the separation, he always makes sure my son and I are taken care of financially. I ended up sleeping with his father last year in December. I found out last week that I am pregnant and there is no way it is my husband’s child as we have not been intimate for over six months. Please help.

Sarah, Nairobi

Since both you and his father are both adults and you willingly participated in making this baby, you both need to sit down and decide on the way forward. There is no easy solution or slapstick answer for this one! Remember abortion is a crime. Enough said.

Afraid of committing to my older lover, help

I’m a 28-year-old man and I have been dating this 32-year-old lady since May last year. I’m just a bit scared to commit because of the age difference, and of what my family and friends will say.

Sean, Kericho

These are not the stone- age-days, today age is nothing but a number. Don’t be naive, commit and see where it goes! After all, as sages say, love is blind; it knows no age, race, class etc.

I got saved and now can’t cope with hubby

I have been married for two years and we have a daughter. I recently got saved, and I am now very active in the church. My husband on the other hand is not born again. Now that I have changed my life there are things that he does that anger me. I do not go out to drink and party like I used to, but my husband still does. I have been trying to get him to come to change, to come to church with me and to also get saved, but we always end up arguing and annoying each other, please help.

Marie, Kabete

I’m sorry, you are the problem. Just because you are now born again you want him to also follow suit? Come on! Plus that doesn’t give you the moral authority to judge him harshly. When you married him you knew what he was, so do not forget your vows, and maybe try praying for him instead!

Should I confess my bad past to new lover?

I’m just getting into my first proper relationship with a lady I love. However, I am terrified about discussing my past with her. I am worried if she finds out the truth about me, she will leave me. Is it okay to wait until later on to tell her?

Jeff, Mombasa

Of course not! If you love this woman like you claim, then tell her the truth now. Better the devil you know than the angel you do not know!