What you need to know before marrying an older man

Saying ‘yes’, to getting married is a huge lifetime commitment. That’s why before you do, you need to make sure you’re choosing to be with someone you would want to wake up to every morning.

You need time to assess whether you are a good match for each other, whether your attraction is mutual, whether they share the same values as you and many other important things that can predict if you will have a healthy marriage.

One big discussion that surrounds the topic of marriage is age gap relationships.

When you’re planning to get married to a man who is ten years, or much older than you, there are certain things you need to know before you walk down the aisle.

Here are five things you should know about marrying a man who is significantly older than you:

When you get married to an older man, you might be surprised to find that you’re not as mature as you might have assumed. I don’t mean this in an insulting way, I’m just saying that getting married and being under one roof exposes some things you might have never thought of.

This experience will test how you communicate, how well you handle disagreements and other areas you might need to work on.

You will need time to adjust if you’re not used to the awkwardness that comes with being with a much older man. It will be an entirely new experience now that you will be living together and probably planning to start a family soon.

That means there will be more situations where people will stare and mistakenly think you’re his daughter or that he’s your child’s grandfather instead of his dad.  

In many relationships where couples have a big age gap, chances are that the older partner has been married before. For you, getting married might be this new magical experience but for him, it’s not quite the same since he’s been there before.

You will also need to learn how to coexist with his other family as you experience this milestone of getting married for the first time.

If you’ve put a pause on having sex until you’re married, this might be an interesting experience for you. Naturally, when you’re young, your sex drive will differ from someone who is way older than you.

Depending on his age, you might find that your excitement for sex is more than his and that may need to be addressed.

Older men are considered to be more responsible and secure. They have no time to play games and they already know what they want which makes them good marriage material.

For some ladies, it can be a bit exhausting to be with a younger man who is still learning and discovering life. So, it might be more stress-free to be with someone who is settled in life already like an older gentleman who doesn’t waste time and goes for what he wants.