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I have been married five years. Two years ago I stepped out of the marriage and started having an affair with a much younger woman. A few months ago, I decided to break things off with her because I wanted to work on my marriage. I am trying to cut her off, but she won’t go away. She is now threatening to tell my wife about us. What do I do?
Kelvin, Bungoma
Remember that old saying that goes, ‘when you rattle a snake, you must be ready to be bitten’? Well, you have screwed up her life and now she wants to ruin yours. Boy, it’s pay back time! She was holding on to a belief that someday you will leave you wife but now that that is not a possibility, she wants revenge because she has nothing to lose.
Help, I am in love with two women
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for six years now and I have never cheated on her. She is a good woman and we get along great, but of late I have been feeling like I am losing interest in the relationship and I am wondering what else is out there. I met a girl at work and we hit it off. I still care about my girlfriend and don’t want to hurt her feelings, but I want to see where things can go with the new girl. What do I do in all this confusion?
Simon, Nairobi
My friend, you are stirring into the hornets’ nest. You need to decide which woman you want to be with. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. Break things off with your girlfriend but remember, grass might be greener on the other side, but the water bill is damn high there.
My man’s a porn addict, how can I stop him?
I recently started living with my boyfriend of two years and I am concerned about his pornography interest. I have caught him several times viewing pornographic material on his computer and it is really bothering me. I feel like I am not good enough for him or I don’t turn him on that is why he is resorting to porn. What do I do?
Violet, Kisii
Look, the work of your heart is to pump blood and love your man not this worrying nonsense! His interest in porn is just a long-standing habit that has absolutely nothing to do with you or his feelings for you. It doesn’t mean it’s more arousing than you or that your boyfriend prefers porn stars. Anyway, you can sit down with him and set boundaries.
New chic is a nag, I will strangle her
My girlfriend of six months has of late been nagging and whining a lot and she is always threatening to break up with me. She picks fights with me over the littlest of things. All this drama is making our relationship unbearable for me and I am afraid I might strangle her out of anger. Please help.
Jackson, Kilifi
Strangle her?! My friend, that is hate speech! If police know this, they might pick you up to have a quiet word with them. But if you have not done anything to make her feel insecure about the relationship, she is being emotionally abusive and manipulative. Let her go before you strangle her.
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