Relationships often end for different reasons. Something major like infidelity might have caused a rift, and other times it happens because you've grown apart.
Either way, it hurts to know that you're the one who's still in love with someone who checked out of the relationship a long time ago. For you to know that it's time to move on, you need to spot the signs.
The truth is heartbreaking but, here are some signs you might have missed:
They have stopped initiating any plansIn a balanced relationship, you both expect each other to put in effort when it comes to making plans. In fact, you will both be excited to see each other often even if it's via video call if you're in a long-distance relationship.
You will know that something is off when you're the only one who's interested in seeing your bae. They might even start flaking on you for other plans because they're not really excited to see you as much.
Their mood changes around youWhen you're with someone you love, you will tend to light up when you're with them. Of course, you won't always be jumping for joy every single day but, you will feel that happiness within.
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This changes when you're with someone you don't want to be with anymore and maybe this is what you're seeing in your relationship. Your partner might seem happier when spending time with the children or other people but when they're with you, they become more withdrawn.
They are finding any reason to fightIf someone starts picking fights with you, it's a big sign that they're not happy anymore. They're intentionally or unintentionally finding any reason to break up but they're not being direct about it.
So if you're noticing that your partner is now getting triggered over petty things that don't make sense, then that's a sign that they might want out.
The intimacy feels forcedYou can also tell someone's level of commitment and happiness by gauging how open they are to intimacy. When there is a problem, the hugs, kisses and sex might significantly reduce or stop altogether.
Even if they seem interested, it will probably feel like they're being forced. This shift could tell you that you need to talk about what's going on as soon as you can.
They have become more secretiveSecrets in relationships are a sign that something is wrong. You both have every right to your space and privacy but, there's a level that's not normal especially if that wasn't the case in the beginning.
If they're out of love with you, you will see some small signs that they're not opening up how they used to. They might insist on putting a new password on their phone when initially they shared it with you or hide their future plans from you.
Take note of any change that wasn't there before to validate that gut feeling you've been having of late. But before you accuse them of cheating, investigate what is really going on then decide on the direction you want to take your relationship or marriage from there.