Ladies, if you do this he'll never cheat

So many times we see articles that tell us that the key to a happy man is good sex, cooking for him and all that jazz, but honestly, a man that wants to sleep around will sleep around no matter how many knob jobs you give him on the daily. I just want to let you know that nothing, absolutely nothing you ever do, will keep a man from straying. He will remain faithful if he genuinely wants to.

It’s a hard fact to accept but it’s true. You can’t really trick a man into giving you the respect you deserve. The only real thing to do with a guy who cheats is to walk away and never look back. Of course that’s easier said than done, particularly if the man in question is your husband and the father of your children. In that situation, you have to weigh what’s more important between your dignity and keeping your family together. I say dignity because I believe very few things are more humiliating than having your man come home and you know he’s been with someone else or having your relationship be Hot Topics at your local salon because your guy has hit at least five of your neighbours.

One of the last sermons I attended a year ago was about fidelity. The pastor told us a story about a wife who had a cheating husband. As in it had reached the point where the guy would bring his clandes to the house, to their matrimonial bed, and make the wife sleep on the floor. The wife was always nice to him, cooked for him and she prayed frivolously for him to change. Finally, after several years, the man came to his senses and apologized to the wife for his actions, thanked her for being so loving and faithful and vowed to never do her wrong. The moral of pastor’s story was “Ladies, love your husbands despite his faults, marriage is a beautiful thing blah blah blah.” Now, I don’t know how factual this story is but it’s nonsense like this that infuriates me. This is not the first time I’ve heard a hocus pocus story being told in church about a woman who remained faithful to her unfaithful husband, but dear pastors, where are the stories of the men who remain faithful to their unfaithful wives?

First off, I am in NO WAY inciting you to cheat on your man as retaliation, all I’m asking you to do is really think about this. Often times we as women are more sympathetic to cheating than men are. Let a woman cheat on her man and you will see a relationship dissolve faster than you can say “maize-iko.” Why is it that we tolerate these behaviors yet when the tables are turned it is very rare for a man to forgive you if you slip up like that? If you put yourself in your cheating man’s shoes and realized he would leave you there and then if it was you who messed up, would you be so ready to forgive him?

The only way to deal with that kind of guy is to leave him. Yes, it can get really messy but I’d rather have my sanity and dignity intact than be with someone who doesn’t have the decency to respect our relationship.