Signs your success is hindering your relationships

As children we all grow up wanting to be successful, financial independent and have the best things in life. But, be careful for what you wish for.

Being a successful man or woman can be a blessing and a curse.

It may be that promotion you have been chasing that has finally come, or you’re now the proud owner of a business that is flourishing day by day.

If only your love life matched the wins in other areas of your life.

Finding someone you can completely match with has proven to be a challenge for many successful people. Creating that proper balance between work and a partner can be quite stressful and sometimes, these relationships end up failing.

The good news is that you can understand how your busy lifestyle is affecting your relationships and learn from some of these mistakes.

Read through some of the indications your success could be ruining your love life.

1.Too busy to date

This is probably the most obvious reasons why your relationships are struggling. If you are a manger, owner of a top business or in any other career that is demanding, it leaves no time for you to focus on the relationship. At this point, your work is your priority. Because of this, you might need to be on call at all times and attend meetings back to back. You might also be misunderstood when you don’t return missed calls or miss some important events that you partner expected you to attend.

Clearly let your partner know that your lifestyle is a busy one so that they will be more understanding when issues like these come up. It’ll prevent them from being insecure, suspicious and angry when you don’t come through.

2. Always travelling

Many successful people have a travelling lifestyle. Your job might require you to constantly make trips abroad to secure deals and to network with others. Because of this, you might find it hard to get someone who is willing to be with you every step of the way. Things might start off as exciting as they visit new places with you, but this can often get overwhelming.

Also, as you settle and start thinking of having kids, it becomes hard to find a balance. For this reason, many are reluctant to be with someone who is always on the move. Let them know early that you travel a lot for work so that they can decide whether the dynamic works for them or not.

3. Being present in the relationship

When you don’t have a strategy to balance your priorities, your relationship can suffer. It can be hard to block out distractions such as calls and messages from work while spending time with your spouse. This causes your partner to feel lonely, abandoned and resentful towards you, because they feel like they are the only ones making an effort to keep the love alive.

One way to find a balance is agreeing on certain times when you can keep the phones away and focus on each other. This way, you both feel valued and loved.

4. Being physically apart

Sometimes in relationships, you won’t be able to be together physically for long periods of time. You might both have serious work demands as successful people that require you to live at a particular place at one point. Because of this, you might have to look into long distance relationship to make things work. Even though long-distance relationships are quite demanding, they can definitely work if you are willing to put in the work.

5. Difficulty committing

Successful people tend to be self-reliant and independent. With an expensive lifestyle and extra money to spend, you become extremely independent because you don’t need someone to provide what you’re already providing for yourself. However, these same amazing qualities can often be twisted to kill your love life.

When you don’t keep yourself in check, you can end up being overly independent and too self-reliant. Over time, you might get into short term disposable relationships with people who are more interested in what you have. If you are truly interested in settling down, be open minded and find someone who loves you for you and not your bank account.