I am 25 years old and was recently involved in a relationship with an underage girl who is now pregnant. She is in Form Three, and is living with her sister who is also educating her. She only told me about the pregnancy when it was five months old, and when I asked why she didn’t do it earlier, she said she wanted to have my child. I want her to finish her schooling but I don’t know what the repercussions of this are going to be once people find out. Please advise me. I really want to help her.
{Newton}
YOUR TAKE
It is unfortunate you chose to have a relationship with a high school girl knowing too well the risks at hand. I hope, as an adult, you will allow the girl to proceed with her education after giving birth. Once the baby comes, remember it is your responsibility to cloth, feed and educate her.
(Pastor Ben Shikuku)
You made your bed and so you must lie on it. The girl will give birth, so learn to be a responsible father if you want to help her.
(Ouma Bernard)
Whatever you have done is illegal and you deserve to be behind bars. You are lucky for now because she hasn’t told anyone. I might be harsh to condemn you, but ruining the future of someone’s daughter is a terrible evil. By the way, abortion isn’t an option. Support that girl and ensure she continues with her education after giving birth.
(Tasma Charles)
Now that you have impregnated an underage girl, you need to accept your mistake and be ready to deal with it. Imagine if she was your daughter, what would you do? Gather courage and approach her sister and let her know what is happening. You must also be ready to take care of the baby.
(Onyango Outha Jaunduny)
Newton, do not be too hard on yourself. We all make mistakes and through them, we learn. Take courage and face the reality.
(Zippy Njoroge)
This is a crime that could land you in jail. Consult widely on what steps you should take before it’s too late.
(Ouma Ragumo_ Sifuyo)
COUNSELLOR’S TAKE
Having sexual relations with a minor is a criminal offense punishable by law. I am certain that you knew this even as you courted her and as such, you should be ready to face the consequences. Without appearing to scare you, this is going to be a tough issue to resolve if her parents don’t put you in jail.
Nonetheless, you better own up and start talking to her parents more to gain their goodwill. If you haven’t realized, her life has totally changed with the immediate effect being the temporary interruption of her education. Your life will also change substantially. In the event that her parents are lenient with you, they may demand that you show commitment towards marrying her when she comes of age. If they do this, consider yourself a lucky man and live up to your word. There is, however, no excuse for your unbecoming behaviour and I have to emphasize that you should to be ready to face the consequences of your deeds. You are liable and risk jail term so the earlier you try to resolve it, the easier it may be on your side.
{Taurus}