If he is established and financially secure then he is not yours

This world is full of wonders and will never cease to amaze. Ladies want to date an established, financially secure man. When they get one and they later discover he is married, they act all very surprised, hurt and betrayed. They then go round, saying how they didn’t know the man wasn’t single and brand all men 'dogs'.

Men are not dogs. It is you ladies who are hard headed and never listen. You were already told that behind every successful man there is a woman. And you want a successful man…what do you expect?

If you meet a handsome man at a high-end entertainment joint, sipping an expensive drink that is definitely not your future husband, that’s someone’s current.

Your future husband is somewhere in a dingy cyber cafe trying to win a multiple bet on Sportpesa, sipping on a quarter of one of those strong gins that taste like python’s saliva, waiting for you to back his success.

Small time favours such as airtime, token for power and taxi bills may look minimal and harmless when looked at in isolation. But when you rack up the numbers, the figure is high enough to justify the man demanding return on investments.

Otherwise how would the man reconcile with himself to the fact that he has racked up a combined bill of taxi, bills and airtime to the tune of 20,000 monthly and he has nothing to show for it?

Men who spend money on side dishes must be accorded their end of bargain. Otherwise how else do you expect him to remain the envy of his boys? Especially when other men are bragging about their escapades during the 'trashy hour' talk in the bar, when midnight waves away and the tiny hours of the morning beckons?

For those lucky and bold enough to date the multimillionaires, known to have several cars and wives as well, I see you occasionally borrowing one of his cars that you will use to go and brag about to your girls during those Chama meetings. What I want to remind you dear sister, is that if he has the temerity to marry several wives, what makes you think that you are his only side dish?

This is a man used to eating life with a big spoon. He is used to seven course meal and you could easily be the soup and bread or dessert in his meal. If you want to be the main meal of someone, then as the famous musical group once declared…Don't go chasing waterfalls. Please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you are used to. Simply put, play in your local league.

I cannot close this session without addressing the college girls, nay those who have finished their studies, waiting to graduate or have recently graduated. Your business with your male lecturer and the trigonometry that also brought your college grades in the mix should now be the thing of the past.

If you were played and the marks were not adjusted, dust your sorry bum and get on with life. You are not the first one to be cheated off of your hard earned place, and you are not the last. This world has many people who cannot stick to simple MOUs.

If you got an even reward for your panting, girl you are lucky. But that phase of life is now over. Get on with life. Remember your lecturer is still marking many other scripts this year. As far as he is concerned you are a chapter that he has completed in his book of life.

To him you are no different from last year’s academic calendar. The things and syllabus that ended with that year are now a closed matter. So quit pestering him over your basic needs, he is now addressing other people’s wants. Ladies, are we together?