Get me there: What I want from my guy

Men and women for years have been discussing what they want in a man, what they want in a woman, who is superior, who is inferior.

There are so many pages on social media and so many websites dedicated to telling US females, what we should change about ourselves, and what we should do to get the guy we like to notice us, to lock down that amazing relationship, well then, here’s a few things I think guys SHOULD change to get the girl.

Dependence

I don’t mean depend on me for everything, but show me that you chose to date me for a reason, show me you need me, and not just when you’re bored, or tryna get lucky, or when you need someone to do your chores for you, show me that if I leave you, the weights in your life will shift.

Intellect

I don’t want to hear about football all the damn time!! Or the latest sneakers or who dropped a new track, engage me in an actual conversation, let’s talk about things, and I don’t mean emotional junk, just things, anything mind-blowing, thought provoking, anything.

We like to talk about important stuff too you know!

Sexual

Now before you overthink this, I simply mean compatibility and understanding.

We have to move together and actually enjoy both our sex lives, not you enjoy it and tell me I’m enjoying it too.

Let me enjoy as much as you do, treat me like I’m fragile and show and prove.

You don’t have to know all the right moves or prove yourself, if we’re going to be together, let’s grow together and let’s have an awesome sex life together.

Respect

You have to respect me, if not, then let’s not waste each other’s time. Talk to me with respect, show me what I mean to you.

Don’t rush me, don’t force me, don’t push me, don’t belittle me, respect that I respect you and we’ll be just fine, it’s not that hard.

I am YOUR woman

First of all, I am your girlfriend, your fiancé, your lady, your woman, your wife, whatever you want to call me. Let’s be clear on that.

I am not your cutty buddy, you can just come and go, it’s not a hump and dump situation, I am your girlfriend, treat me like it.

Secondly, I am not your mother, I shouldn’t be doing what your mother does for you, Yes, I will take care of you as I should but don’t expect me to be at your beck and call, 24/7, J-Lo said it best, I ain’t your mama!!

Third, I am not your maid, we are together to be together, not so I cook, clean, do your laundry and make your bed. It’s the 21st century love, give and take.

I am your woman and you’re my man.

Very simple and very clear.

Make an effort

Not just with me, make an effort to know my friends, my family, hell, even those I hate.Make an effort for me, take me on dates, buy me flowers, and get me my favorite cake. Once in a while of course, not all the time.

Loves me

Love me for who I am, not who I pretend to me, know me, keep up with me, tolerate my idiotic habits.Show me you love me, in the way you look at me, the way you hold me, Show me how much I mean to you.

Make me a better woman

Don’t break me, don’t make me cry, don’t insult my kindness and what I am trying to do.

Encourage me as I try to grow, watch me and help me, support me.

See, relationships are a give and take, a double standard, you do for me and I do for you. Its how it works…

I’m just saying