It's not just the money. Why I prefer dating older men

I prefer dating older men — I’m talking a decade or more, like a Nigerian model who recently married a governor who is three decades her senior. No, I do not suffer from “Daddy issues” complex. For your information, absent dads do not always breed girls with a penchant for older men. That theory is nothing but hot air. Any girl can be a little slutty; it has nothing to do with their daddy.

I am not a gold-digger either. Nowadays, everybody and their mother seem to have a strong opinion about young women dating older men. Dating an older man has a bad stigma attached to it.

We all know the gold-digger issue. A lot of people find it immoral even when they don’t know the motivation behind the relationship. Women who prefer to date from a much older pool get unfairly lumped with the young women that like older men simply for their money.

First, the basics. Sure, there’s a strategic advantage for women who snag an older gent —older men have had more time to accumulate resources and stability than his younger counterparts, which make them a more viable partner for a long-term relationship.

You are pretty much guaranteed a secure and comfortable life but that’s not all. Women who date older, financially stable men become more financially independent than the women who date within their age group. Oh yes, it’s all about kujipanga my fren!

As a woman becomes more confident in her career aspirations, she looks for a partner who will match her aspirations which, more often than not, is not her age mate, a 25-year-old hustling guy.

Finances aside, the best part about dating a much older gentleman is that he knows exactly how to treat a lady and respect her feelings. Older men don’t play silly games.

They have made, or seen all the mistakes made in the dating game and have learnt from experience what to do and what not to do. In general, dating games are rather boring to a guy who’s probably had his fair share.

You can stop worrying about who should text first and getting anxious when he doesn’t text back immediately. In fact, older men prefer calling, which is a more mature mode of communication. Best believe he will call when he says he will and he will text you back in good time.

He has no time for immature mind games. An older man has generally been through more ups and downs in his life and therefore acts more mature than his younger counterparts.

In addition to this, the older a man is, the more chivalrous he’ll be. Older men are often more chivalrous and ‘old school’ about dating. They love romance and things like kisses, hugs and candle lit dinners will be a constant in your life.

An older man goes the extra mile to ensure that his woman is happy and satisfied. If you are looking for a man who pulls out chairs and holds doors open for you, your best bet is an older guy.

Younger men are amateurs on this front and are still learning, so they obviously do not know how to treat a lady.

Another advantage of dating an older man is he is chock-full of knowledge. You can talk to him about any issue you are dealing with. And chances are, he will have had experience with it and can give sound advice. It is great when your partner can use his experiences to guide you. He can be a mentor as well as lover.

With so many perks of dating older men, I wonder why women are still struggling with frustrations with their twenty something year old boyfriends. Try an older man, you will never go back. It is like getting your first taste of a gourmet meal. You will never want to go back to eating fast food.