Scores of women are subjected to a great deal of dysfunction in their relationships, yet some are not even aware of it. We know women who date men who have obvious flaws. These men do and say all sorts of hurtful and nasty things but the women still stay. We wonder why in God’s good name these women do not leave their partners. What you do not know is what these men are saying to the women behind closed doors.
Women are suckers for flowery words that are never put into actions. They will be belittled and slandered by their men and then called ‘honey’ and ‘sweetheart’ by the same men. Men will say damn near anything to keep you around and drag you along for the ride if you are of some benefit to them, even if you are getting the raw end of the deal in the relationship.
It is not uncommon to find a woman who is clearly being mistreated by her man saying something like, ‘But he says he loves me.’ It is no sweat for a man to say ‘I love you’ because he is fully aware that that is what you want to hear. Behaviors and actions are of more significance than words.
Do not trust a man’s ‘I love you’ if his conduct and actions are not reinforcing his words. If your man says all sorts of wonderful things like ‘you are the love of his life’ or that ‘he cannot live without you,’ but continues to fall short of what is needed to validate these words, he may be taking you for a ride.
If a man truly loves you, you will not need to hear those three little words because you will just know. Whenever you are faced with a situation where you are uncertain about your man’s feelings towards you and you are trying to figure out where you really stand in his life, place less weight on his words and more weight on his behavior and actions.
Never let a man confuse you with some two-bit sweet talk. Pay attention to his actions towards you because that is where the truth is. If he says he cares about you, but never calls to ask you how you are doing or never listens when you are trying t talk to him about important stuff, he is only telling you what you what to hear.
Be prepared to walk away if a man’s actions and words never seem to line up unless he clearly shows he is ready to step up with his actions. It feels so good when a man says he loves you and that he cares for you, that you are tempted to turn a blind eye to his actions that always contradict his words. Do not believe everything that comes out of man’s mouth. Believe his actions instead.
Talk is cheap. If he doesn’t follow it up with actions it is meaningless.