Hi Chris,
When we were newlyweds, bedtime was exciting. In fact, it was the highlight of our day! But now we go to bed at different times. I miss the fun we used to have, so how can we recapture the excitement?
Bedtime
Chris says,
Hi Bedtime!
Going to bed together is one of those activities that defines marriage and is a wonderful opportunity to be close and strengthen the connection between you.
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So, re-create a shared bedtime at the same time every day.
That may take a little organising, but in reality, routines are just habits. So change them! Get up earlier and exercise in the morning. Make the children’s evening routine less stressful.
If all else fails, agree that from, say, 10 until 11, you’ll be alone together in your bedroom: talking, cuddling, making love and dozing a little. Then, if one of you can’t sleep and wants to get up again, or you need some time apart because of problems like snoring, at least you haven’t missed the chance to connect.
Make the bedroom a place for intimacy. No phones or arguments!
Even if you have something difficult you need to discuss, don’t try and talk about things then. Instead, agree on another time to talk.
Always prepare for bed together. Get close and pillow talk. Catch up, reminisce and discuss your goals and dreams. Say how much you appreciate one another because bedtime, including that last snack on the sofa, is the perfect time for couples to talk, making you closer and much more likely to want to be intimate.
Be completely relaxed about sex. Take your time. Sleep naked and as you settle down, choose an intimate sleeping position for the start of the night, touching one another just about everywhere, or at least linked by an arm or a leg. Some couples like to hold hands for a moment. Many kiss.
And whatever you do, make sure you say ‘I love you’ every single night. They may be simple words, but they make you feel closer and ready to deal with whatever tomorrow brings.
All the best,
Chris
