Ditch the false sense of purpose
Being a fixer gives a sense of purpose. Sometimes, people keep you around because you seem to have dedicated yourself to fixing their problems. That fake illusion of being 'needed' or 'loved' drives many young women to absurd actions. In the long run, one may suffer mental, emotional and physical exhaustion. You probably enjoy a relatively good online presence but the reality remains that people will inevitably go through hurdles now and then. You cannot keep up with everyone's life challenges; a fixer has no holiday and your fixer's effort may even end up not fixing anything.
Own your flaws
If you feel flawed or inadequate from the beginning, no amount of self-improvement can make enough antidote to cure you or make you feel whole. Going for that one more degree will add more knowledge but it won't make you feel complete. Will you spend your whole life judging yourself based on what you lack? This is a recipe for a miserable life and crappy emotions. One way to maintain sustainable improvement is to build on something that you began. Even though we are used to showing discipline and grit in what we do, sometimes the body takes a beating and we find ourselves at a point where we cannot fix or change the present situation.
Appreciate what you have
At the end of the day, what is most important is how we answer the question: Were we kind to ourselves? Our focus, perspectives and feelings govern the quality of life we live. Look around and count your blessings. Develop high level of self-acceptance such that you stay open to exploring, learning, and failing and not giving up. Being radically compassionate with yourself allows you to forgive yourself when you mess up. Being kind to yourself should not feel like a luxury. Kindness to self does not allow failure to drive you over the edge of judgment and self-pity.