Dear Coleen
Please don’t judge me. I’m a 40-year-old man and my pregnant wife is in her 30s.
We traveled to Thailand on holiday for the first time eight months ago where I met a 19-year-old prostitute and, to my shame, I think I’ve fallen in love with her.
I was at a low point – my wife is wonderful but she’s become very cold of late. I know she’s pregnant, but she doesn’t fancy me now and I have to say it’s mutual.
I was out on my own in town when I met the Thai girl. Talk about beautiful and exotic – she looked other-worldly. She turned me on so much and we had the most mind-blowing sex – the type of sex I’ve only ever dreamt of before. Although I did pay her, I felt there was also a meeting of minds and that she understood me.
We met up a lot after that. I couldn’t help it – she was so warm and inviting. When we made love it felt like heaven, so we did it many times and even thinking about her now I can’t help but get turned on.
My wife doesn’t do anything for me now I’ve been with this girl and I am contemplating leaving her and our unborn child to go to Thailand. I know it’s a risk but I don’t believe I’m just another punter to her.
What would you suggest? I think I’m in love with her.
A “meeting of minds”. She “understood me”. Are you serious?
I think if you really believe what you’ve written in this letter then you should do your wife a favour, pack your bags and go to Thailand because she deserves so much better and so does your unborn child.
In fact, if I knew you well enough, I’d pay for your ticket.
I think when you get to Thailand you’d be in for a big wake-up call. It’s this girl’s job to please her punters and give them the experience of a lifetime because they’ll come back for more. She has sex to earn a living. Why are you romanticizing it?
Do you honestly think I’d say, “Oh, maybe this prostitute is The One then and you can run off into the sunset together and live happily ever after”?
Maybe your wife isn’t turned on by you because she doesn’t fancy you – she’s discovered your hidden shallows. But that doesn’t matter, because you can pay for it?
Good luck in Thailand. I hope your wife goes on to find someone who’s worthy of her.