Does your man still have the hots for you? Certainly, a lady likes to feel respected and not to be handled like a piece of meat. When your man doesn’t seem all hot and bothered by you any more, it is a major cause for worry.

Remember how in the beginning of the relationship he couldn’t keep his hands off you, but nowadays sex seems to be the furthest thing in his mind? It is because you got comfortable and stopped trying hard to please your man. With a little effort, you can trigger that craving in him once again.

When things start becoming lacklustre in the bedroom, it is your responsibility as a woman to pep up your man’s sexual appetite. The following pointers will have him squirming in desire in no time.

Take the initiative A great deal of women prefer to just sit there and let the man do all the work to keep things spicy in the bedroom. He will be pleasantly surprised if you initiate sex for once. You need to take things into your own hands (pun intended) if you want to rekindle intimacy with your man. The key is eagerness and enthusiasm. He will be greatly turned on if he sees how much you want it. This is guaranteed to bring some novelty and excitement in your relationship.

Dress a little provocatively Men are visual creatures. You will have him salivating for you if you tastefully leave certain bits of your pretty body on prominent display. Put an end to your monotonous jeans routine and surprise him by strutting around the house in a miniskirt, paired with a low-cut top and killer stilettos. Then perhaps start doing some chores that involve a lot of bending. Taking care of how you look is important if you want to turn him on. I am not saying you need to lose five kilos for him to find you attractive. Work with whatever you have got and present your body in the most arousing way. Wear lacy underwear and never go to bed with sweatpants and old T-shirts.

Break the touch barrier Never underestimate the power of an unexpected touch! There is nothing quite like a light brush of fingers on his crotch to send him over the edge. Add some spice to your sexual repertoire by ‘accidentally’ brushing your breasts against his arm when reaching over him for something, or grinding your rear into his nether regions when passing him.

Talk dirty to him A lot of women feel shy and embarrassed when it comes to displaying verbal affection. It might feel a little awkward at first, but once you get the hang of it, it will come naturally. It does not have to be the hard dirty stuff they say in those porn films. Something as simple as, ‘I want you’ or ‘You make me feel good’ is enough to awaken the desire in him. You don’t have to make up stuff either. Just tell him what you are feeling like, ‘I am feeling horny.’

Sexy text messages If you can’t talk dirty, you sure as hell can text dirty. Flirty messages build up sexual tension and can be a wonderful way to sexually excite him again. It is fairly simple too. Start by texting him when he is at work and telling him what you would like him to do to you when he gets home. He won’t be able to think of anything else! If you are feeling particularly brave, send him a risqué photo of you to fire up his imagination. Nothing too explicit though. Perhaps a picture of your exposed thighs when your skirt rides up when sitting down. He won’t be able to resist.

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