How some women destroy their own home

1. Using sex as a weapon to punish the husband and then complain when the husband gets tired of making sexual advances

2. Flirting with other men then expecting the husband to be OK since she is not having physical sex with them

3. Valuing the words of the pastor or honoring the pastor more than the husband thus making the husband feel dethroned as the head of his own home

4. Blaming the husband alone for all the mess in the marriage instead of doing some self-analysis to see their wrong

5. Listening to the rumors about the husband from outsiders and misleading girlfriends and taking action based on them without getting the facts right

6. Walking into marriage with insecurities and a low self-esteem and thus accusing the husband of crimes her ex committed making him feel judged and misunderstood

7. Lacking the emotional intelligence to solve issues without bringing drama thus burning the whole marriage just because of a small fire that could have easily been put out

8. Lacking the patience to celebrate her husband's growth no matter how small making him feel alone and rejected

9. Turning the marriage into a gender war of proving points thus coming off as a rude, attacking and angry woman instead of his best friend

10. Belittling the husband based on what he earns and equating his worth based on his money yet expect him to feel respected enough to feel happy

11. Criticizing everything he does for her without appreciating his effort thus discouraging him from doing more

12. Being mean to him and giving him no peace and expecting him to enjoy her company

13. Praising other men more than him making him feel worthless in her eyes

14. Holding grudges from the past and using it as ammunition and yet she claims she has forgiven him

15. Bad mouthing her own husband to the public and thus destroying her home from within

16. Attacking and talking down at her husband in public and in front of the children making him feel exposed and ashamed

17. Having sex with other men

18. Mocking his performance in bed, the size of his penis, whether he is circumcised or not or how long he lasts and expecting him to still desire her sexually

19. Being silent about issues as she despises him instead of talking them out

20. In her temper, saying and doing things that she regrets without saying sorry

21. Reminding him of how much she has contributed and how much she has helped him with a tone full of pride or a manner to suggest that she controls him

© Dayan Masinde

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