We all want to be open and loving in your relationship, right? We all wonder whether the relationship will be for the better but as with every relationship, you ought to be careful especially when dating. Take time to know each other.
Part of knowing each other is seeking complete transparency and clarity on aspects such as finances. Money often acts as a wrecking ball to relationships when not handled right.
Here are some reasons why you may need not to reveal how much you earn early on.
1. You are not legally bound
A boyfriend or girlfriend relationship does not take a form of permanent commitment to one’s life. This is because the relationship is not legally cemented.
Therefore, you do not want your boyfriend to know your private financial life without an assurance that you will stay together forever.
2. To avoid lending him money
In most religions and societies, a man is supposed to be a provider not the other way round. He is expected to have his act together to cater for both your expenses. Leeching on you is a no no.
3. You will take the tab
Disclosing your salary to your boyfriend may not be a good idea, some men will take advantage of you and seek to pile all bills or expenses on you.
Some will stay with you for the wrong reasons that is because of your money. It is not an excuse not to chip in where necessary but start planning for your money and appreciate to say no to plans that you are not interested in.
4. There will be no ego hassles
In some instances, a woman earning more than a man in a relationship is a waiting time bomb. Some men find this unsettling, look down upon themselves and find reasons to make you feel bad about your success. Ego sips in and you are in a slippery slope.
You worked hard and made your money, be proud. It is better you keep the salary to be one of your little secrets.
5. You can buy whatever you want.
Get your finances in order and you do not have to pester your boyfriend to provide everything for you. You are just dating. This gets easy for you to plan yourself without depending on your boyfriend.