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First dates can be nerve-wracking, but with the right approach, they can be a launchpad for a great connection.
Here’s your ultimate guide to acing that first encounter
DOS
Set boundaries: Agree on a timeframe for the date beforehand. This provides a graceful exit if things aren’t clicking, and avoids getting stuck in an awkward situation.
Be an active listener: People love to talk about themselves. Ask thoughtful questions, show genuine interest through eye contact, and find common ground to keep the conversation flowing.
Embrace adventure: Skip the stuffy restaurant. Opt for fun, interactive activities like mini-golf, a carnival outing, or laser tag. These create shared experiences and allow you to showcase your playful side through lighthearted flirting.
Dress with confidence: Find out the dress code beforehand to avoid a mismatch. Choose something stylish yet comfortable.
Mind your food choices: Avoid strong-smelling foods like onions and messy greens that might cause self-consciousness. Opt for light, easy-to-eat options.
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DON’TS
Hit the movies: Movies are conversation killers. You can’t talk, it’s dark, and the focus is on the screen, not getting to know each other.
Go high-end: A fancy restaurant is intimidating for a first date. Keep it casual and low-key. There’s plenty of time for a swanky dinner once you’ve established a connection.
Fall for last-minute requests: If someone asks you out at the last minute, it might suggest they’re not genuinely interested. Politely decline and wait for someone who wants to take the time to get to know you.
Bring up your ex: First dates are for getting to know someone new, not rehashing past relationships. Save the ex-talk for your best friends.
Forget your manners: Be kind and respectful to everyone you interact with – waitstaff, bartenders, anyone! It reflects well on your character.