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You probably think that abuse is restricted to physical violence but according to research, it manifests in different ways be it mental or emotional anguish among others.
Some stick to abusive relationships and tolerate these individuals in the hope that they will change with time.
However, an abusive relationship is pure toxic and no one should subject themselves to such kind of torture.
Here are a few pointers that you are dealing with an abusive partner;
1. Extremely controlling behaviour
It is okay to let your man take the lead but it is another thing if he forces his way. In many abusive relationships, the abuser will want to control every aspect of their victim’s life.
They might want to know who their victim is talking to, who they are planning to meet up with, or where they are going.
They may demand that their victim doesn’t talk to certain people, often for trivial reasons, and they may even want them to stop having contact with their own family.
You probably think that abuse is often equated to physical violence but that isn’t where abuse starts or ends. Abuse can be physical, mental, or emotional and everything in between. It is even worse when it is coming from someone you deeply love and care for.
Some people argue that an abusive partner is bound to change with time and therefore just need to be shown love. Well, one thing is for sure, an abusive relationship is pure toxic and no one should subject themselves to such kind of torture.
Here are few pointers that you are dealing with an abusive partner;
1. Extremely Controlling Behavior
It is okay to let your man take the lead but it is another thing if he forces his way. In many abusive relationships, the abuser will want to control every aspect of their victim’s life.
They might want to know who their victim is talking to, who they are planning to meet up with, or where they are going.
They may demand that their victim doesn’t talk to certain people, often for trivial reasons, and they may even want them to stop having contact with their own family.
2. Verbal abuse
This behavior involves saying things that are intended to be cruel and hurtful, cursing or degrading their partner, or putting down their accomplishments.
3. Entitlement mentality
People with a sense of entitlement believe that they deserve special consideration and special treatment. They may cut in front of others waiting in line, smoke wherever they want, drive any way they want, say anything they like, and do pretty much anything they choose.
2. Verbal abuse
This behaviour involves saying things that are intended to be cruel and hurtful, cursing or degrading their partner, or putting down their accomplishments.
3. Entitlement mentality
People with a sense of entitlement believing that they deserve special consideration and special treatment. They may cut in front of others waiting in line, smoke wherever they want, drive any way they want, say anything they like, and do pretty much anything they choose.
4. Guilt trips
Most will identify this with some sort of reverse psychology. This is a method employed by abusers to get their way. They might say something like “if you loved me you would/wouldn’t do this” or “I thought this meant something to you, but apparently I was wrong.”
The hope is that the victim will feel bad for letting their abuser down and just give in to whatever it is they want.
5. Any force during an argument
This may involve an abuser holding down his or her partner, physically restraining the partner from leaving or pushing. Holding someone back in order to make demands, such as “You will listen to me!” is also a show of force, as is restraining someone so she/he can’t leave.
Strangling is a significant red flag for violence.
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