Hi Chris,
All my adult life I have tried to be one of the good girls. Genuine, honest, dependable and trustworthy. I am career-minded, kind to my boyfriends, careful with money and resisting all those designer bags, shoes and dresses!
But recently I have started to realise that while men might say they want to marry a ‘good girl’, they actually end up chasing after the bad girls. Why do men do that?
After all, they must know what a lot of trouble they can be! And what should I do to be more successful? I do not want to change who I am, but I would like to have a few more dates!
Am I Too Good?
Chris says,
Hi Am I Too Good!
You know what? Even though guys know they should be dating one of the good girls, they actually find them a little too intimidating.
So what should you do to have more dates?
Just add a few ‘bad girl’ traits to your natural good behaviour! You will still be a good girl overall, and that is a combination no man can resist.
So be a little more adventurous and open to new ideas. Guys are natural risk takers, so they like the way bad girls are always up for something new. Men often fear settling down, but that seems much more attractive when they are with an adventurous woman.
Good girls tend to be organised, mature and focused, but if your life is all in order, a guy will wonder whether you really need him. Bad girls are a little wild, fun and exciting. So taming one feels like an irresistible challenge.
Radiate bad girl confidence. Men love a girl who looks like she is happy with who she is. Who is outgoing, and not too worried about the future. Who says when she is upset. Tells you what is wrong. And exactly how to fix it.
Because while good girls want a mature guy who is thinking about the future, and always seem as if they are looking forward to having a family, most men are much more focused on the here and now.
So they are drawn to girls who can be spontaneous and as carefree as the guys. Then there is no pressure and everyone can just have fun.
Men are used to being the ones who have to take the initiative, so they love it when a woman starts something once in a while.
So do not be shy. Every man wants to find a woman who is as passionate about him as he is about her, and who will be mischievous with him in the bedroom.
Bad girls are adventurous and exciting. They stand out because of their confidence and sex appeal. They are not afraid to take the initiative, and they say what they feel. So add a little more of all that to your good girl qualities, and you will be a sure fire winner.
All the best,
Chris