I was 22 and representing my college at a conference. On the last day, a young man came to me and said his boss had asked for my number. I told him off but he refused to leave, saying that he couldn’t go back to his boss without my number. The ‘boss’ turned out to be one of the guest speakers at the conference.
What was his proposition when he called?
He wanted me to go to South Africa, where he lived but I declined. So he offered to come to Kenya for one week. We stayed at one of the most luxurious hotels in Nairobi.
What was the first encounter like?
It was fun. We had good chemistry and great conversation. I thought the sex would be awkward but he was such a gentleman and definitely knew what he was doing. The rest of the week, I showed him around Nairobi, which he had never really seen since he had busy schedules during his previous visits.
You are still involved with your sponsor four years later. Take us through the journey of your relationship.
It’s mostly long distance because he lives in South Africa. We travel a lot, all over the world like to Mauritius, Seychelles, Dubai and Bali. I’ve also been to Paris, London and many European cities but that’s with a different sponsor who is a pilot.
You have more than one sponsor. Do you not find that lifestyle risky?
I suppose it is especially because they don’t know about each other. I got pregnant once and since the pilot has always said he wants a baby, I told him about the pregnancy. He seemed excited and offered to add both of us onto his medical cover. When it took him over two months to get this done, I panicked. I thought he might vanish and I didn’t want to raise a baby alone. I made the tough decision to procure an abortion and later told him I had a miscarriage. I never mentioned the pregnancy to the South African.
It seems very complicated, is it worth it?
I think so. I love both of them, for different reasons. The pilot is 36, so we have a lot in common and the sex is phenomenal. The South African is 41 and he pushes me to do better with my life; he paid my way through university. He sees my potential and believes in me sometimes more than I believe in myself.
What about the money? How much do they spend on you?
Right now I receive Sh300,000 from the South African and Sh100,000 from the pilot, monthly.
What is your plan? Will you ever choose between these men?
I need to but I’m stuck. In the end, my decision will be based on whether my business and ambitions are more important, or having a family and raising children. I can build a family with the pilot and a business with the South African. But I’m not sure either of them can give me both.
What happens if you lose them -- how would you survive financially?
I’m actually very good with money. Over the years, I’ve bought more than 20 parcels of land and my current savings are in excess of Sh2 million. I am also building a business as a nutritionist.
Do you have any regrets over how you’ve chosen to live your life?
No. I think everyone should decide the kind of relationship that works for them and go for it. I choose not to judge others in the same way I hope they won’t judge me.