I used to think that it was only teenage boys who lie to women about their intentions just to get into their pants but boy was I wrong! I have come to discover that this stupid antic lives well into adulthood. Men tell a lot of lies but telling a woman you want a relationship with her to sleep with her and then pulling a disappearing act has to be the lowest low a man can stoop to.
In this day and age, it is incredible to think that there are men out there who resort to lying just to get some. Such kind of a man will ask a woman out and pretend he is looking for a relationship. He will fill her up with sweet words and empty promises until she believes that the union is headed somewhere. She lets her guard down and gives in to his wishes.
Soon afterwards, she learns that the only place the relationship was headed was the bedroom. He cuts off all communication and moves on to the next unsuspecting victim. I was once a victim of Mr Hit It and Quit It. When I met James, I thought I had hit the jackpot. He was good-looking, charming, thoughtful and caring. He took me out for a candlelit dinner and spent the better part of the night telling me how he was certain I would be the one for him.
He told me he was tired of flings and pointless romance and was looking for something real and long-term. He said that I was everything he was looking for in a woman and he could totally see a future with me. Although I had only known him for a short time, I was moonstruck by his words. By the end of the night I was smitten with him. In hindsight though, his declarations of his love for me on our first date was a huge red flag. Anyway, we consummated our relationship soon afterwards and his attitude towards me changed immediately. He was no longer the doting boyfriend. The frequent calls and texts quickly petered out and then I was shocked to learn that he was going out with another girl, barely two weeks after hooking up with me.
After I hunted him down and confronted him, he admitted that he was just looking for sex and was never interested in a relationship with me. I was terribly hurt and felt used and betrayed. Why couldn’t he have told me that in the first place? I don’t understand why men lie about something they know very well will soon blow up in their faces. Why can’t they be forthcoming about their intentions with a woman. A woman will think more of you if you come out and just tell her you are only interested in having sex than if you lie about wanting something more. Attaining your goal of having sex with her under false pretense is detestable. Just tell her you are only interested in her body and, sure, it will suck if she turns you down but it’s better than leading a woman on with lies. Furthermore, nowadays there are scores of women who are looking for casual hook-ups too.
Why go through the trouble of lying and manipulating a woman who has made it clear she wants more than just sex? Don’t waste your time deceiving a woman into believing she’s the one you want in your life when you know very well you have no intentions of starting a relationship with her.