Six fights all couples have before their wedding

Wedding planning is a task that will from time to time require your attention even after hiring a wedding planner.

It is practically a part-time job that cannot be fully delegated and requires plenty of effort, patience and discipline.

All that is going on in the background breeds grounds for stress and it is not uncommon for couples to have fallouts during this time.

It is therefore a good idea to be on the lookout for triggers that may lead to fights. Although you can’t always control the outcome, below are some of the fights you and your spouse may be embroiled in days before the big day and how to tackle them.

Religion

Religion has always been a very sensitive topic for most families whether or not both families have the same beliefs or not. It is the joy of every parent to see their child marry someone with a similar background. If for instance the couples are from different cultural backgrounds, arguments may spiral up especially if they cannot agree upon the right practices to have for their wedding. Religion-based arguments can be avoided by talking it out as a couple and deciding on an officiant and a venue that serves both parties.

Theme and Decor

Every person desires to have their interests accommodated in their wedding. People have a different sense of taste and style and what might apply to you, might not feel enchanting for another individual. Couples constantly fight trying to envision their dream wedding for instance with colours and the venue. Disagreements on theme and decor can be easily avoided by combining each of the couple's preferences to maintain fairness.

In-laws involvement

Parents will feel the need to take part in planning their children's wedding. It is not a bad thing for them to give an opinion or two of what they think should they be involved in the wedding. It is however not a good idea for them to get too involved in the wedding planning since they will bring misunderstandings especially if parents from both sides of the family each want their ideas to be incorporated. The marrying couple should remember that it is their wedding and try to establish boundaries between parents' involvement in the wedding to avoid clashes. 

Financial issues

Money is the greatest factor in any wedding. Couples will normally fight about it especially if one party feels they have to cut costs on something that had been suggested by their spouse during the wedding planning. Money arguments can be very dangerous and it is a good idea to sit down with the wedding planner and air everything out. Remember, a wedding should signify love, support, and respect. This is not the time to be fighting over finances.  

Past affairs

It is never pleasant to bring up the past about something or someone. Unresolved issues normally raise tension in the home and interfere with the trust between two people. Marriage should be a new beginning free from anger, past relationships and fights that had occurred earlier. As a couple about to be married, avoid arguments that may break off the engagement by talking it out.  Establish a trustworthy relationship that will lead to a productive marriage.

Guest invitation list

Who and who not to invite can lead to huge arguments. Lists of those you want to come can be a seed for strife especially if one party feels otherwise. Parents from both sides might also have a list of the people they would want to have attended the wedding. The number might not entirely be the issue. It could just be that one of the parties feels undermined in decision making. If one or two people coming to the wedding will make your partner unhappy you have to cross them off for peace to prevail. At the end of the day it is about the two of you and not who came.

We should always try to find a neutral point whenever such disagreements come up. Give each other a chance to air out your feelings so that you don’t end up with resentment before your special day. If things go out of hand, always seek the guidance of a marriage counselor.