Ladies, don’t expect romance if you dress like a grave digger

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Listen up housewives and women in long-term relationships: physical attraction is important if you don’t want your husband running after these light-skinned lassies with perky boobs and abundant booties.

Keep looking your best too if you want to keep the romance alive. I often hear married women and women who are in long-term relationships and are cohabiting with their partners complaining that their men are slacking off in the romance department.

A woman will reminisce about the days when he used to surprise her with champagne and roses, or treat her to a candle-lit dinner or give her random, thoughtful gifts. After 10 or so years of marriage, all that becomes a thing of the past.

Face it: men start to lose interest when you let yourself go. I told this to a group of women and some feminists looked at me like this is some kind of a 1900s housewife, backward kind of thinking.

It doesn’t matter whether it is 1900 or 2019; it doesn’t matter how empowered you are as a woman. It is great that you are beautiful on the inside. However, the crux of the matter is, your physical appearance matters.

Kelly Rowland knew what the heck she was talking about when she sang; I promise you I’ll keep myself up. Remain the same chick you fell in love with, I’ll keep it tight, I’ll keep my figure right.

I’ll keep my hair fixed, keep rocking the hottest outfits. The truth is, it is not only the men who settle into this comfortable complacency after years of marriage or cohabitation. Women do it too by letting themselves go.

There is this housewife in the neighborhood I used to live in who would transform into a completely different woman on Sundays. I swear to you, if you met her on a weekday then saw her again on a Sunday, you would not believe it is the same person.

During the week, she looked like an old hag in oversized frumpy clothes and messy unkempt hair. On Sundays, when they would go to church, she would dress to the nines. She would do her hair and wear makeup.

She would wear the most stylish clothes and shoes. It baffled me why she was so comfortable looking like a troll in front of her husband, but didn’t want the rest of the world to see her like that.

I am sure that when she first met her husband, her Sunday look was her everyday look, but after a few years of marriage, she doesn’t care about looking sexy for him. Most women are like this.

When we first meet a man, we go to great lengths to look our best. We wear the trendiest clothes and shoes. We wouldn’t be caught dead with a hair out of place. We wear makeup religiously. We wear perfume.  After he seals the deal, you begin to turn into this frump he doesn’t even recognise.

Ladies, learn to dress up and be sexy even if you have nowhere to go. Always look sexy around the house.

So, throw out those frumpy clothes and granny panties. Start rocking sexy clothing and lingerie. When you make an effort to always look good for your partner, he will notice the effort and reciprocate.

 @roxannekenya