20 Signs she is not desperate for marriage

In spite of the fact that women are generally judged in terms of marriage, a time comes when some women are not in a hurry or desperate to get a husband. They know it’s better to be called Mrs. so or the wife of Mr. so rather than the daughter of John for instance. This realization does not guarantee instant marriage at the right age and with a perfect mate. This accounts for why most women are single but not desperate. Here are some Indicators that a woman is not desperate for marriage:

When a woman can take care of herself and she does not depend upon a man for her protection. Forget the usual monologue about “I can pay my bills” perpetuated by single women to terrify men. In this time and age a woman who can’t foot a bill here and there is an embarrassment to the women folk. The deal is in fixing bulbs and unclogging blocked bathroom and kitchen sinks without a man’s help. If she can fix her TV stand, owns a tool box in her house and connect home theatre without calling on an electrician she’s cool.

When a woman has blocked at least five individuals; among them, very potential suitors that other women ordinarily fall themselves over, it goes without saying that she is not desperate to be tied down in marriage.

When everybody asks why a certain woman is not married but she doesn’t ask herself the same question. In short she is not interested in the marital affairs, expectations of other women but minds her own business.

A woman buying herself something believed and assumed she can be bought for by a man. Invests on her own, on things ordinarily presumed that they should be bought together with a man. That king size bed for instance. Or the piece of land in Ruai.

She goes to parties, for liquor and the party, but not to look for a potential husband.

When a woman can’t take crap from a man just to keep him. Dumps any man who tries to play with her emotions. Using the kid, her status as a divorcee or barrenness. She doesn’t think twice about the pricks.

Never camps at a man’s place on weekends cleaning, washing endlessly soiled jeans, scrubbing the balcony and the veranda and cooking in the hope that they will be seen as “wife material”. She is clear on marital labor, no ring, no cooking or cleaning.

Never loses their head, when a prospect dumps them. They don’t carry on with “mafeelings”, calling, texting and stalking the man again and again in the hope that he will came back. They don’t feel like they lost the sky and the ground but know that they will be just fine and a prince charming will come.

When a woman does not change her schedule at the drop of a hat when a man calls .She does not put aside what she is doing to accommodate a man who has appeared. They know that playing available doesn’t get one a husband.

When a woman doesn’t envy her married friends. When her married friends go to church with their husbands wearing matching clothes and the husband helping her friend with the baby or holding the umbrella, she doesn’t wish she was in that position. She knows her time will come.

When a woman can dump men who do not meet her marriage ideals. She doesn’t believe that settling for anything in the hope that the man will change will guarantee her marriage. Her boyfriend is not talking, so is she, he is not making efforts to see her, she also doesn’t make efforts, he hung up on her and he never apologized, she doesn’t ask for an apology either. The right man makes efforts and it’s not her duty and responsibility to make desperate efforts to nail a man.

Never uses sex as a way to appease a man into marriage. She knows many of her friends who gave all their bodies in the name of love, but still got dumped.

When a woman wakes up during weekends or holidays, wears make up, amid thigh length miniskirt and sleeveless top then reclines on the sofa. What am I saying? That a woman who is not desperate to be married enjoys her own company and takes care of herself.

Does not stop eating to watch and critique a wedding show. She can’t remember the last time she attended a wedding or read a wedding magazine.

She cooks like a chef every day, for herself and her family and not in the hope of pleasing a man.

She is not concerned about making friends with her boyfriend’s relatives. She knows that is a triumph card that jokers pull to make naive women trust them. She doesn’t pressure a man to introduce her to his family and friends. She is not desperate to fix herself in his life.

She is never forgetful of her toothbrush, or comb in a man’s house. No underwear is left strategically in the bathroom to “mark her territory”. It’s a man’s duty to hover around her.

When a woman does not get pregnant “accidentally” for her live-in boyfriend just to bond their relationship-Whatever that means. Even if the boyfriend suggests it yet he hasn’t made efforts to marry her legally or plans to, she can’t accept it.

It’s her habit to sleep in lingerie and not old worn out T-shirts and ugly socks.

She has learned to live alone even if she doesn’t like it or feels bored at times.