Don't entertain an unromantic 'Netflix and chill' man

Netflix and Chill has been the new normal in present-day relationships and it has taken over the dating scene. People no longer or rarely go on proper dates. Proper dates, I mean, those dates that y'all plan for and set aside an appropriate day and time for just the two of you to have time for yourselves. Eat. Drink. Have a good time.

As a woman, when were you taken out on a date by your person? Dressed well, did makeup if you're a makeup babe, good hair, did your six-inch heels, smelt nice, and off to a movie, dinner, or both? Much as we are all trying to cut down costs and opt for Netflix and Chill, or buy a movie, drinks, and food then stay indoors for the whole weekend just by yourselves, going out for dates is such a great moment to rekindle the love that might be fading because of this and that, and fix some hiccups in the relationship.

Something scares you. Another thing scares me and the other person. Terrorism. The current Ruto-Gachagua economy. Global warming. School fees. Fuel and gas proces etcetera etcetera. We all get worried and scared at these things. But what scares me and makes my palms sweat and my pulse hit triple digits, is doing those house dates with someone you're dating, maybe someone you hardly know well! You have no idea about their anger management and temper. Don't y'all fear being choked to death by a stranger that your family knows little or totally nothing about?

'Come over we do whiskey. I make very nice chapos by the way!' Like, bro, si if I wanted to sit in a house and take the damn whiskey and feed on wheat, I could comfortably do it from my house? Don't you think I also pay rent, as you do? There are these ones that would always be on a budget and cost-cutting. Always. They'd want to bite their cakes, swallow them, and still have them in the fridge. Stay indoors.

Can y'all ladies stop entertaining men who know nothing, and do nothing about date nights, weekend getaways, road trips, picnics, vacations, and flowers? Zachariah knows totally nothing about flowers and chocolates. Has never even pulled a simple birthday surprise or ordered random lunch for you to your desk at your workstation. The dude has always done house dates for the 5 years you've been together, no coffee dates. No jewellery even on your special days.

Indoor relationship

You date someone for seven months with indoor dates all the time, you break up the 8th month with no sweet memories. Just sex and gin and chapo all the weekends of your lives. Imagine visiting your person in his house all those days. You'll definitely pass by the grocery and get three tomatoes, avocado for your sukuma episodes, two mangoes, and nduma for breakfast. You get to his house with dust all over your feet, smelling all the sweat of the market.

He'll cook for you if he has some traces of small small romance, or you'll do the cooking and wash utensils and sufurias because si you're the woman in the relationship? You'll wake up the following day after a steamy night, kiss his salty forehead, wear his baggy Azimio t-shirt, and fix breakfast before washing his dirty jeans and socks. And boxers. The whole effing weekend you'll be there staring at his face as you laugh at his flat jokes all in the name of dating on a budget. Aai bana!

Babe, don't you think you need to go out there and have fun? You're dating, for love's sake, you're not a house plant or a duck laying eggs! You're not a domesticated cat (pun intended) to constantly feed on milk (another pun) your whole dating life! Relationships are supposed to be a fun, adventure, and every other thing that makes the two of you yearn for another day in paradise.

Not all relationships last the period we wish they should. Make memories bana. Enjoy the whole moment while it lasts. Visit places. And no, it doesn't have to be the man paying for all these. As a woman, you could still suggest and foot the bills on a date, vacation, or picnic. It's about the two of you. The casual sex culture has ruined romance in relationships because what else will two people in love do, staying indoors the whole weekend for 48 hours?

Romance is relative. But we all love romantic dates out of these houses we live in. A man who loves a woman will constantly take her out on dates. Open doors and pull chairs for her. It's masculine to make a woman feel feminine. If he doesn't show you good things out there, often, if he doesn't let people serve you, if he just never takes you on proper dates, sis, you perhaps need to think again about this love you have for him.