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Dear Uncle Ted,
I am almost 30 years old, married without a kid. My question is, how do you know or tell that you have reached orgasm? Thanks. I remain Taremwa James from Uganda.
Taremwa, first, you obviously have never reached cloud nine.
Sex is not like a Kenyan election where one is never sure whether a politician lost fairly or merely cheated the rest. When the ‘Big O’ comes rolling in, you will know as surely as one knows that they have been kicked in the stomach! Simple as that.
What bothers me is why you, at 30, and married, insists on enduring lousy sex. Why? You can’t cook for a man, clean his clothes, endure his bad breath, nasty mother and thieving relatives, and support his potbelly night after night without getting rewarded with an orgasm.
That is not what marriage was intended to be. In my book, lazy men who subject their wives to this sort of nonsense rank up there with war criminals.
Note, however, that I am assuming you are a woman, because if you are male and you don’t know how to tell that you have reached orgasm, then your problem is one that only the parliament of Uganda, Kenya and Tanzania in collaboration with witchdoctors can fix!