Be a man, stop complaining like a baby

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Whiny men. Whiny men everywhere. I am sick of hearing men bitching and moaning. There seems to be an outbreak of the whiny man syndrome. From Facebook ramblings to Twitter gripes to real life whining, complaining, bitching and moaning from the menfolk. Women were the ones who used to have a bad rap for whining, but I think that the sexual paradigm is morphing rapidly and men have taken the cake.

These whiny men post excessively on Facebook detailing their pathetic lives. They complain about how all women are self-centered, money-hungry creatures and that is why they are single and lonely. They whine about how they are stuck working deadend jobs with poor pay and horrible bosses.

They raise a stink about their endless financial woes. They bitch about their close-fisted relatives who are all too happy to watch their own wallow in poverty. Oh, poor, poor you!

It does not matter how good things get for them, they still only see the bad and will go to extraordinary lengths to point it out to everyone around them. This grumbling is incredibly annoying. First, it's unmanly to whine. A man who whines is a complete turnoff. Women like self-assured, assertive men who have their life together. You are a dude for crying out loud!

Chronic complainers are worse than pessimists. Like one psychologist said, while pessimists see a glass half empty, chronic complainers see a glass that is slightly chipped holding water that isn't cold enough, probably because it's tap water when I asked for bottled water. And wait, there's a smudge on the rim too, which means the glass wasn't cleaned properly and now he will probably end up with some kind of virus!

Telling them to pull themselves together doesn't work. Cheering them up doesn't work. Suggesting solutions doesn't work. The whiny man has convinced himself that his problems are too big and can't be solved through any suggestions you throw his way. They will go on with their usual litany, no matter what you do or say.

You need to get it in your head that the universe does not owe you any favours. You are foolish if you believe that people will be bending over backwards to make your life better. You bet your lazy ass that you are not going to get anywhere sitting there complaining every time when things don't go your way. Nobody is going to give you preferential treatment because you are going through such a hard time. Have you ever thought that perhaps if you showed some effort and stopped complaining so damn much, you might get what you want?

Don't be a pansy. Nobody likes a complainer, except your therapist who makes a living by listening to your self-pity and offering sympathy.

@roxannekenya