My girlfriend’s ex was hung like a donkey, mine is small, what do I do?

By Dr Cupid | 6yrs ago | 3 min read

I was having a conversation with my girlfriend and she sort of hinted that her ex was well hung and it has been really bothering me.

I am not insecure about manhood, but finding that out has left me wondering if I measure up to her ex. I know I shouldn’t obsess about it, but I can’t help it. How do I get over it? Peter, Homa Bay Dear Peter,

The size of one’s manhood doesn’t define his sexual ability. Good sex is not about ‘ploughing’ and ‘ploughing’ like a savage whose life depends on it.

Precision is key. You are wasting your time worrying about your small spear.

He only offers financial support to his baby mama

I have been with my 35-year-old boyfriend for three years. He has his own company and makes good money. He has two kids with his ex and he sends her a lot of money for their upkeep.

I am currently in between jobs and really struggling financially, but he has never offered to help me with anything.

I tell him how stressed because I am behind on rent and he does nothing. It is like he doesn’t care. How do I handle this? Josephine, Nairobi Dear Josephine,

Easy. Clobber him where it hurts most; start rationing his access to your ‘server’! A man who truly loves wouldn’t stand aside and watch you suffer if he was in a position to help, especially if you’ve been with him for that long.

My boyfriend says he’s not sure he loves me, seriously?

My relationship with my boyfriend has been good for the most parts except for a few fights. The problem is that he has never said he loves me.

I have been sure of my feelings for him for a long time and a few days ago I told him that I love him, but he didn’t say it back. I was pretty hurt.

He said he couldn’t say it because he isn’t sure about how he feels about me. We have been together for one and a half years. What should I do? Emma, Embu

Dear Emma,

He is using you! But why did you start satisfying his greedy fascination for the forbidden fruit, before proving his love?

One and a half years is along time not to be sure how you feel about someone. That goon is probably just holding out, until someone better comes along. Don’t waste any more of your time on him. Move on.

I’m broke, any tips on how to make her feel special?

My girlfriend has been complaining that I don’t make her feel special anymore. She says that she doesn’t feel appreciated.

She is in college and I am working. We usually just hang out at my house or go out drinking with our friends. I don’t make a lot of money so it is not like I can afford vacations or fancy dates often.

I am really into her and I want to make it work. What can I do to make her feel special and appreciated? Andy, Eldoret

Dear Andy,

With girls, unless you are pretty good elsewhere, wink wink, wallet first! But another school of thought claims it is not about having money for fancy dates and vacations.

So try to break the predictable routine of just hanging out at your place doing nothing. There are a lot of inexpensive things you can do together to keep the relationship exciting.

Think of the things she likes and start doing them. Cook her favorite meal for instance.