Tired women make horrible mothers

I started going to work two years ago, and I remember getting off work at five and sleeping for at least 3 hours in the evening before I got my bearings to start talking with the people I lived with. I used to get home so exhausted, and it was the first time I came to appreciate what my mother did for me while I was growing up and what she still does for me.I could sleep after work when I lived at home because she was there to make sure there was food. I do not know how mothers do it because this person had to go to work earlier than me. She would still make sure my breakfast was made before she left and have enough energy to still make dinner after work at a time when I would usually find myself exhausted.

I now live away from home, and most days, I order a cinnamon roll from Artcaffe and call it a night. After working the whole day and going to school in the evening, I am usually spent. And when I think of my exhaustion through the weekdays, I thank God that I am not married because if I were, I would have to go home after school at 9 pm to make sure people have eaten and done CBC homework and the whole time I do not even have the energy to speak to anyone let alone continue working. One thing that will never stop surprising me is how two people working and making money can get married, and then one gets off from work to rest, and the other gets off from work to work again.

One gets off from work running to the supermarket for groceries and the butcher's for meat, and the other gets off from work early to catch a game or meet their friends at the local for a quick one before they go home. It is never lost to me how in our society, women spend their Saturdays battling house chores while men spend them entertaining their young lovers in dingy clubs around the city. When you think of your childhood, how do you remember your parents?

The Dad was always relaxed with a newspaper, waiting for his food to be served, while the mother was always profoundly buried in a basin, trying to clean. That dynamic is the one they still try to force on us by insisting that a good wife must know how to cook well and serve her husband, and it is one you must resist if you want to live well.

It doesn't matter if your man is president

If he loves you, he will understand that you get home from work when you are as tired as he is, and there is nothing wrong with him cooking for you on some days or with you two outsourcing the role of cooking from somewhere else.And it doesn't matter if Kamala Harris cooks for her husband. It doesn't matter if the president of Tanzania does it. We come from very different generations, and the best thing we can ever do for ourselves is to be done with gender roles.

They are the root cause of the oppression of women, and they are the reason why your mother and her mother were constantly frustrated. Most of us again remember our Fathers being gentle and our mothers being the screaming parents, and that did not happen because men are more understanding. The exhaustion that comes with the performance of labour is what could never let our mothers do motherhood with gentleness, and we should want better for ourselves and our children. You do not want to be the mother who screams at her children at 6 am before they go to school because she is overwhelmed with the labour at home and everything she has today to ensure everyone's life is running smoothly.

You want to be a well-rested and well-adjusted woman, but that can only happen when you have a partner who is considerate and understanding enough to know that house chores do not come preinstalled in the vagina.