I am lonely but I am afraid of marrying again Photo: Courtesy

Dear Uncle Ted,

I’m 36. My wife died in 2013 and left me with three kids. I remarried in 2014 but sadly, lost my new wife in a road accident two months ago. This has left me with many questions. Is this normal? I am lonely but I am afraid of marrying again. Please advise me uncle. If there’s a lady who has suffered similar pain, I would love to meet her.

Chris

Dear Chris,

You’ve buried the women you loved. Now you must rise at dawn and bravely face the sun, your three beloved children by your side; like a man. True, the pains and aches of lost love and unfulfilled hope will tag at your heart for the rest of your days.

But in time, they will become dull and familiar, like a childhood scar. In time, your loins will stir and your heart will ache for a companion to hold and share the joys and pains of life. Don’t be afraid or walk around clothed in self-pity.

Focus on the now, on being a good daddy and a solid man. Women love a man like that. In fact if there is one who would like to talk to Chris, I have her number.