Is comparison stealing your joy? Reclaim your happiness

Is comparison stealing your joy? Reclaim your happiness (Photo: iStock)

It would be a lie to claim that no one has ever compared themselves to others. Comparison is an intrinsic part of human nature, deeply ingrained in us all.

In today's hyperconnected society, however, where social media reigns supreme, it's nearly impossible to avoid the feeling that everyone else is faring better than you. But is that really the case? That's a story for another day.

Problems arise when comparison spirals into self-doubt and inadequacy, negatively impacting your life. According to psychologist Leon Festinger, known for his social comparison theory, individuals determine their social and personal worth by comparing themselves to others.

While this process can be motivating, it often leads to dissatisfaction when perceived achievements fall short. For professionals navigating high-stakes careers, this tendency can fuel imposter syndrome, where accomplishments are downplayed and self-doubt takes center stage.

Consider a once-confident executive who begins to question their leadership abilities after witnessing a colleague's rapid career advancement or a creative who feels stagnant after encountering the curated successes of peers online.

Over time, this persistent negative comparison can lead to anxiety, depression and burnout, reinforcing a cycle of self-criticism that stifles both personal and professional growth.

Dr. Caroline Leaf, a neuroscientist and author, highlights the psychological toll of constant comparison, emphasising that the brain's neuroplasticity makes it highly susceptible to patterns of negative thinking.

The more you engage in destructive comparison, the more your brain reinforces these pathways, creating a habitual loop of self-deprecation. This rewiring can significantly impact your mental resilience, making it difficult to recognise or appreciate personal progress or develop a sense of fulfillment.

Individuals prone to chronic comparison are likely to experience heightened levels of stress as they relentlessly push themselves to meet unrealistic benchmarks that may not even align with their values or aspirations.

However, not all comparisons are inherently harmful. When approached intentionally, it can serve as a powerful tool for self-improvement rather than a source of emotional distress. You can shift your perspective from competition to comparison as inspiration.

This allows individuals to use it constructively. Rather than viewing someone else’s success as a measure of personal failure, reframe it as evidence of what is possible.