What should be taught about sex

I have many women friends who are single mums. A good number of them got that baby in high school, right after school or in their first year of campus. It was their very first time to have sex. Most were victims of date rape.

Now, a woman can only get pregnant if she is ovulating. Ovulation is chaos, even for mature women with six degrees. It doesn't matter whether you are a banker, a prison's officer or a member of the church choir. Biology is a bitch, and if that egg is crawling down the fallopian tube, the body insanely demands that it ought to be twangad and fertilised. It is an overwhelming feeling, even for adult women. And men, like dogs and bulls, are wired to sniff it.

Now picture a teenage girl whose knowledge of ovulation is based on a silly diagram on the blackboard and not the madness, the virulent heat burning her body.

This, in my view, should form the basis of sex education, not that story about ukicheza na vijana shauri yako. If I had a teenage daughter, I would sit her down and explain this ovulation thing. We all want our daughters to remain chaste until the night of the wedding. Sorry brethren, but that's not how biology works.