Bishop David Muriithi: Why married women should strive to be a Delilah

In the book of Judges, a story is told of how Samson went out to Gaza, saw a prostitute, and had sex with her. The men of Gaza heard of it and encompassed him and laid wait for him in the morning. At midnight, Samson woke up and took on his shoulders the doors of the gate of the city, its two posts and bar; and carried them up to the top of the hill before Hebron. Later, he loved a woman in the valley of Sorek called Delilah.

A number of analyses have been made on the weaknesses of Samson. How he lacked self-control and his inability to resist the power of a woman. I want us to look at the story of Samson from another perspective: Samson was more powerful than a speeding bullet and an amazing man. His problem was not a lack of control rather; he was a strong man who fell in love with the wrong person.

Delilah represents evil and everything that is ungodly and manipulative. Samson was in pain because his fiance had been given to his best friend. He had no one to talk to and was dealing with the headlines and not the details. He had stored up pain and ended up doing very foolish things. The enemy knew that Samson was fit for the kill because they were waiting to take him out and the future of the home lay within him.

The devil will do whatever he can to take the men out whether it is through alcohol, women, accidents, crime, or diseases. The men of Gaza were Samson's enemies and they told Delilah to find out his strength so that they may take him out.

When Samson fell, the first thing the enemy went for was his eyes because he was after the vision of a man. The moment you cannot see, you cannot move (progress) and women find it hard to follow a man without a vision.

There are things that the visionary needs in order to function at their optimum. Men are needier than women and the main reason they need a woman as a helper. Even after Samson had killed a lion with his bare hands; killed 1000 men with a donkey's jawbone; and carried a 320 kilograms cake for 60 kilometres from the city of Gaza to Hebron, still, his needs and desires were not met. There are certain needs that a man has that only a woman can meet.

Delilah knew what Samson needed. She talked to him, not at him. A woman does not need to be a beauty queen to get a man. She just needs to know how to talk. That is why you may observe a woman with her man and wonder how in the world did she get him? You can be Miss Universe but if you have a foul mouth you will wait for some time to get a man to marry you.

A man feeds on affirmation and needs praise. There is no praise that can lift a man like the praise of a woman. Let him talk about his dreams and their benefits of them. Let your man know that he is 'the man'. Men operate best in praise and if you need to see a man's true colours, try praising him. Let your man know that you are behind him by expressing confidence in him. Behind every great man, there is a great woman!

Delilah touched Samson. A sense of touch conveys care and love. Touch is therapeutic, a form of communication that makes your mood lighter. Men are like babies who need to be touched and rocked. She gave him intimacy which mature men long for. You can get sex from anyone but intimacy is rare. She had the right bait and she used it to make him believe he is the greatest.

Delilah gave Samson a place to rest. The visionary needs a place to rest. Samson would be moving everywhere but he knew when he came to Delilah he would find rest. Rest restores energy and it means quiet time. She put his head on her lap and he rested. She took interest in him; and implored him to tell her about himself. A woman needs to take interest in a man's dreams, goals, burdens, and even hobbies.

In conclusion, ladies understand that your blessing is tied to talking, touching, creating a place to rest, and taking interest in the man.

Bishop David Muriithi

Founder & Overseer

House of Grace International Ministries