If you want a happy marriage and life, do not skip the hoe phase

Just like puberty is a stage we must all pass through before we get to a place of actual growth, the hoe phase is a stage every human being needs to go through before they reach a place of self actualisation. Some people avoid it in the earlier stages of their life because of morality but this is a phase you can never really escape. It finds you even in marriage when you are having a midlife crisis and it throws you into a sudden whirlwind of the sexual experiences you should have had when you were younger and they end up hurting and destroying a whole family. To avoid that, it is important to get it out of your system before you settle down in a serious commitment.