Should I abort to prove my love?

My partner and I were shocked to find out that I am pregnant despite having been on the pill for two years. About two years ago, I got pregnant by another man and aborted because he was unable to take care of the baby. I regret that decision. My current guy told me he does not want anything to do with the baby and will leave me if I keep it. I love him and don’t want to ruin his plans. What should I do?

{Muray}

Your take:

I am a mother two and can tell you that men don’t know how traumatising abortion is.

That guy should be out of your life immediately. I dumped my ex when he forced me to abort. Follow your heart because men come and go.

{Mercie K}

Carry your pregnancy to term. The man is the culprit and he should take responsibility. Abortion is the hardest thing you will ever have to do.

If he loves you that much he should respect your decision. Follow your instinct and do the right thing. Everybody deserves a chance to live.

{Lisa Njeri}

Maybe this guy is not serious with you. How can someone do what he is not ready for? You’d better quit now and ask God to show you your Mr Right.

{Wisley Anasi}

I am three months pregnant and the man responsible has abandoned me. He too didn’t want to have a baby and suggested I get rid of it.

He has even married another woman thus leaving me the burden of taking care of this pregnancy alone. I am trying to be strong for the sake of my unborn child.

Children are a blessing despite the circumstances.

Please find solace in God and He will see you through.

{Anne}

Abortion is not only a crime but also a traumatising episode. It is better to lose your boyfriend than to kill an unborn baby.

Prayer and faith will help you through these difficult times.

{Kilo Mutua}

If he really loves you why would he ask you to abort his child? It is clear he was just after fun and not responsibility. Abortion is a sin and a crime. It is better to be a single parent rather than follow his decision.

{Biegon}

A person who aborts is a silent killer. Imagine if your mother and father had arranged to murder you? Please do not abort for the second time. If you cannot take care of it, give it up for adoption. If you do not need a child, go for permanent family planning methods.

{Onyango Outha}

No matter what people say, it’s your choice to either keep it or remove it because you are the one who will live with it. I know what it’s like not to have a dad. But it is better not to know your dad than to know him and know that he never wanted you. If the only reason you are going to abort is to keep him, is he really worth it?

{Dr Stella Zampetti}

If he got you pregnant it is also possible that he has made other women too. Like my son’s dad; he didn’t want children but he got some other girl pregnant and she had twins before we met. He cheated on me and got children.

I left him because it is easier and better to be on my own. It’s always the men who don’t want children that are the most irresponsible!

{Bev Odeng}

Children are a blessing from God and so do not abort for the second time. You might lose your fertility or die in the process.

{Kemboi Rotich}

It seems you want to be advised to abort again. There are thousands of women out there who wish to conceive but they can’t.

Keep that baby and let your boyfriend go if he so wishes. If you can’t raise the baby take him to a children’s home.

{Chris Adikiny}

My take:

I am concerned at how much of your life is dependent on the man’s stand on things. Abortion is never a solution.

It is a senseless loss of human life and any adult who doesn’t see that needs a serious talk with his mother.

Have you ever both sat down to seriously discuss your relationship? It is important for couples to talk about pregnancies and marriage. Otherwise how else do you know you are compatible?

I see a lot of maturity in you wanting to take responsibility for your actions and if he can’t and won’t own up and follow suit now then, it’s time you moved on.

I wonder why ideas such as abortion, "I am not ready for responsibility", "not ready to become a father" don’t come up when those baby makers are having sex. If one is ready to have unprotected sex, they should be ready for the package that comes with it.

You could also give him some time to digest the situation. If he loves you as much as you seem to love him then he will sober up. Explain to him all the dangers of abortions then give him some time to reflect.

He may be in a state of panic and confusion. I have faith that you will listen to your heart knowing that incase he abandons you, you can always get a better man. He is bound to change his mind when you deliver the baby.

But if he doesn’t, there are always options like asking parents from both sides to help bring up the child if you are not in a position to. God always provides for children.

{Taurus}