Why men don't forgive cheating

An angry man talking to his wife. (Courtesy/iStockphoto)

War Room. If as a married woman you haven't watched, read or heard about this movie, then your person has not cheated on you enough.

Or has never cheated. This has always been a song for women as an encouragement to forgive their philandering husbands.

Watch War Room, go on your knees and pray for your husband. Go on the mountains and fast for 40 days and 40 nights and dedicate the man of your house to the Lord in prayer.

Well, women easily forgive. Okay - they don't easily do, because it is not easy to forgive a cheating partner, but society and religion expects them to. They cry their nights away and soak the pillows in tears begging God to change their persons.

I don't know, but every woman has made peace with the fact that her man will chew something new out there, at least once in his lifetime. Hence they don't really get the shock when they find out. It's just a confirmation of the fears.

But why do men find it so difficult to forgive infidelity? Yani the thought of another man right there, naked before his woman, makes them choke! The idea that the other man might be much better than him in matters sex, that she could be giving it better than she does back home, these ideas just can't sink.

The images can torture him all his life especially when he sees his woman around, say, she's the legal wife with kids.

This conversation was triggered by some tweet about a man who had filed for divorce because he had caught his wife pants down, literally. Once tu and man went berserk! The babe had to remind him the countless times she had found him cheating and forgave him. In two such cases, kids were born and she tool them in. He would hear none of it.

Men usually regard infidelity more seriously. This, is according to one of my male friends. Infidelity affects a man's masculinity and it's the biggest offence against his manhood.

The act completely crushes his ego and lowers his self-esteem, he might even not be able to face his boys.

When a woman cheats, apparently, it goes deeper than the physical sexual touch.

See, it's believed that women cheat for emotional reasons. Well, they are emotional beings. They cheat for attention and some, for revenge. Y'all know that when a woman decides to revenge, she engages all her gears and senses. Unlike men who might just cheat for sex.

Also, men are never prepared psychologically that their women might at some point cheat. It's the confidence that beats me! Why would you think that a woman you met in adulthood, would do you and you alone? That she can never look at another man and find him attractive and develop feelings for him?

Come on, Jeremiah, just the way you admire other women out there, yours is no exception!

To a man, his woman is his and no other man should touch her, much as he is busy being touchy out there.

To a man, there is no reason for his woman to sleep with another man. There are those who forgive, have forgiven and live happily ever after with their women. Then there are those that regard cheating as the ultimate relationship breaker.

The day our brothers, husbands and boyfriends will make peace with the fact that their women might at some point find someone more attractive than them, forgiving infidelity will never be such a big deal.