When love fades: Signs it's time to leave your marriage

 

An unhappy married couple. (Courtesy)

If people in no-sex marriages don’t manage the incompatibility between them, they might start to wonder when to walk away from a sexless marriage. If you are pondering on leaving a sexless relationship tactfully, here are most scenarios to keep in mind.

You want it, but not with your spouse

For some reason or other, you are no longer attracted to your partner, and this is leading to the lack of sex. The issue becomes bigger when you feel physically attracted to other people and, unfortunately, not with your partner. This is one of the major signs of a loveless marriage.

Your partner is not willing to work on the issues

Problems can be solved when people are willing to work on them. Talk to your partner, and have an open and honest conversation about your needs and desires. Hear their perspective and have a true curiosity about how sex could be better for them. If you have done all of this and more, and they still refuse to collaborate on improving your sex life, it might be time to leave a sexless relationship.

You have tried, but your efforts are futile

It could be that you and your partner are working on improving your sex life without any success. Although both of you are committed to making it work, you find you are sexually incompatible. What turns you on could be a turn-off for them, and vice versa.

Sex issues are the tip of the iceberg

Often, this kind of marriage is a sign of overall relationship dissatisfaction. Other significant issues may be causing you to consider divorce, like disagreements about money, parenting, power struggles, constant fighting, physical, emotional, or substance abuse. If so, unless addressed and dealt with, these issues can lead you to divorce.

You both have different sexual preferences and drives

When your sexual drives are mismatched and if you or your partner has a high sex drive, this may hurt the other partner’s feelings upon rejection. The partner will eventually start feeling incomplete and inadequate in the relationship.

Infidelity is involved

If the reason for a sexless marriage is that the partner is cheating, then this is a sign to walk away from the relationship. In such a situation, it is difficult to feel intimate with your partner as there would be a lack of trust and lots of suspicions.

Partner is withholding sex to exercise control

If your partner is withholding sex just because they can gain control over you, or you are not agreeing to their certain terms, know that is a form of abuse, and if communication isn’t helping, it is better to walk away.