Finding balance between work and motherhood

Finding balance between work and motherhood (Photo: iStock)

Being a first-time mum comes with a tidal wave of emotions, from joy, exhaustion, to a deep desire to do everything right. Now add single motherhood into the mix, alongside work responsibilities and it can feel like an impossible task, demanding you split yourself in two.

Before we delve deeper, let us first agree that you must let go of the pressure to be perfect. Not easy, yes, but you must do it for this to work. Whether you’re logging into your work laptop with a baby on your lap or scrambling to make it on time to release your nanny after a meeting, the stress is real!

And it’s okay if not everything runs smoothly. Success isn't always polished; sometimes, simply showing up is a significant achievement in itself.

If you’re employed, communicate with your manager early. Don't wait until you're burnt out. Many organisations now offer flexible working policies, so take advantage of them.

Explore options like remote work, adjusted hours, or a compressed workweek to find a schedule that allows you to be present both at work and at home. Remember, your HR team is there to support you, not to judge.

Prioritisation and planning are your lifeline. Every week, decide what is essential and what can wait. Automate tasks where possible, such as grocery deliveries and bill payments.

Lean on your support systems, perhaps that younger sister who's just finished school and enjoys looking after her adorable niece 

Financial planning also plays a key role. Knowing your rights around maternity pay, childcare policies and tax credits can ease some of the pressure. Do your research and find out what is available to you.

Most importantly, extend grace to yourself. This season of life is demanding but temporary. You’re not failing, but adapting. Being both the provider and the nurturer is not a walk in the park and takes a lot of courage.

When things get overwhelming, reach out. Other mums and communities can provide valuable support and resources. You don’t have to be on this journey alone.