Failure to make your bed in the morning can fail your marriage

I came a cross some advice from a motivational speaker who said if you want to accomplish your day’s task, ensure you start by making your bed in the morning. At first, this seemed strange. I assumed making the bed was normal for the ‘Bamba Forty’ breed. When I was young, making the bed started in  class five. This was like the 11th commandment — the 10th was ‘cleanliness is next to Godliness.’ I have shared this before about my mother being a perfectionist — which meant failing to make your bed was basically an act of war. The bed is where one retires daily and should be treated as a sacred place. She expected that after waking up, you had to first thank God in prayers then make the bed before heading to the showers. I remember those days we used to have bed covers — the duvet only existed in movies. Every bed cover had a decoration of some sort. How best you made your bed depended on how straight the ever-present decorations took shape on the bed. It had to be straight.

That’s why the first time I slept in a five-star hotel, I had to diligently spread the bed the following morning. I smiled to myself after I remembered that housekeeping staff were there just for that. The new generation is so lazy that spreading the duvet is like climbing a mountain. Trust me, you’ll lose your day’s focus if you fail to spread your bed in the morning.

No wonder, the new generation has no set targets and is not able to accomplish tasks. They will always complain that the tasks are too much and impossible to finish. When some of us went to boarding school, the one thing that resulted in punishment was untidy beds.

I have witnessed marriages break just because someone never makes the bed. The new generation have no idea that the last person to leave the bed should make it. The young women you see around will spend the night at their boyfriend’s place and in the morning, they forget to change the sheets.

Today, young couples allow house helps to enter the master bedroom to make the bed. This breaks the code of respect between the house help and the man of the house, and that’s why they will start sleeping together.

This is my advice to young girls: don’t allow the house help into your bedroom. Make sure you make the bed and do all the cleaning, that way your marriage will last. You will thank me later.

The new generation of parents will no doubt consider what we went through as kids as some strict backward treatment. Well, you are wrong. If indeed ours was that terrible, look at how well we turned out. Most of us are able to accomplish the day’s tasks before retiring to bed. Most of us are focused and know what we want. So, I will tell the new parents to please make sure your children make their beds. This thing of handling them with kids’ gloves and letting the house help do it must stop. You are spoiling the little one.