- I have been with my boyfriend for six months
- He is the best guy I have ever dated and I have fallen in love with him
- I’m afraid if I tell him I love him he’ll bolt
I have been with my boyfriend for six months and he is the best guy I have ever dated. We have gotten very close and we can talk about anything.
He is truly my best friend before anything else. I have fallen in love with him and want to tell him but I don’t want to say it too soon and scare him away.
I was hoping he would say it to me first but he hasn’t. Should I tell him or wait for him to say it first? Julie, Malindi
Dear Julie,
There is no problem with women saying it first, but it’s better to let him take the lead. Men show it before they can say it and will not say it until they are sure they mean it.
There is no need to rush. Take comfort in noticing the little things he does that show he loves you.
She happily gave me her number but doesn’t pick calls
I met a girl at the club last weekend and she seemed very interested in me. We talked and flirted and when it was time to part ways, I asked her for her number, which she gladly gave me.
I called her the next day, but there was no answer. I figured maybe she didn’t save my number, so I sent her a message explaining who I was.
She didn’t answer that either. I tried calling again after two days, but she still wouldn’t answer.
Why would she act interested and then not return my calls? Did I do something wrong? Harry, Nairobi
Dear Harry,
You did not do anything wrong. If she was interested, she would have gotten back to you. People flirt all the time with no intention of taking things further.
Do not be too attached to what happens after an interaction, especially during a night out. Let it go and move on.
Eager for date with my crush but ashamed to ask
I finally got my crush to ask me out on date after flirting for months. He told me last Wednesday that he will take me out this Saturday and it’s nearing Saturday and I have not heard from him.
We usually text at least every other day and I don’t know why he has suddenly gone quiet. I have not contacted him because I don’t want to seem too eager to go out with him.
Should I contact him to confirm our plans for Saturday? Doreen, Kisii
Dear Doreen,
Since the date was his suggestion, you should wait for him to call and confirm, unless you made definite plans (you know the time and place of the meeting) in which case you just show up for the date.
If plans have changed he should be mature enough to inform you beforehand.
My guy has really changed after I moved into his digs
My boyfriend and I recently moved in together. I have, however, noticed a change in our relationship.
Before I moved in, we would sit together for meals and basically do things together when I slept over.
However, since I moved in, he wants to do things by himself like eating in front of the TV. What has changed? Marie, Mombasa
Dear Marie,
He is probably just adjusting back to his normal routine before you moved in. When you came over before you did things together because you didn’t see each other a lot.
It doesn’t mean he has stopped loving you.
