Are you having a dialogue or a monologue in your relationship?

1. A monologue is when you order your partner around, a dialogue is when you discuss as a couple and decide together.

2. A monologue is when you dominate the conversations, a dialogue is when you give your partner a chance to speak.

3. A monologue is when your partner texts you but you don't reply, a dialogue is when you engage your partner on a chat.

4. A monologue is when your partner is asking you a question hoping for you two to share but you answer with one word answers, a dialogue is when you accept the invitation and open up.

5. A monologue is when you always have to be right and so you manipulate your partner to yield to you, a dialogue is when you listen to your partner's point of view.

6. A monologue is when you talk at your partner, a dialogue is when you talk with your partner.

7. A monologue is when your partner asks how your day has been but you don't bother to find out how his/her day has been; a dialogue is when you show interest back.

8. A monologue is when your partner is talking to you but you are busy looking at the TV or phone as you nod absently, a dialogue is when you are present and interactive in a conversation.

Monologues kill relationships, dialogues nourish them.

© Dayan Masinde

In my book, MANHOOD SERIES, I walk with men through the journey of understanding themselves and their woman.

In my other book, WOMANHOOD SERIES, I walk with women through the journey of self-discovery

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