I miss the old narratives of how naïve and shy
girls reacted when approached by men back in the day. There wasn’t a limit to
the things those girls couldn’t do; draw a map of Africa with their toes, pluck
and nib leaves and twigs, as she got wowed by a man’s lyrical prowess. Those days
before feminists invaded our good old African realism. And those shy men who
way laid ladies after dusk when they were heading back home from the river.
Girls then were not supposed to look at a man in
the eye. She could be easily branded a slut, and a girl without respect for the
men. When a man talked to a girl she looked away, concentrating her eyes on
things such as drawing and plucking twigs.
But those days are long gone. Ladies are equal
to the men. In fact the ladies are making forays into fields previously
dominated by men. Much attention has been given to the girl child. Everywhere it’s
the girl child. Seemingly the efforts are paying off.
Today men are now being turned into endangered
species. Forget those old theories that if a woman initiates seduction game,
she will be laughed off. In fact some for fear of being left out have
tirelessly won their dream guys by going against the societal norms. To most 21st century woman, the man’s looks are as important as
everything that should be put in consideration before choosing a mate. For
instance in an organization when a tall handsome young man is hired, everything
will change. The moment he enters the room, watch his female colleagues as they
will be feeling unease in their seats, their eyes well set to this young man.
The moment he goes out of the site, the big talk will be in place. They will
narrate how the young man’s girlfriend is the luckiest one. Some daring enough
will approach the young man.
In case the young man doesn’t own a car and has
been commuting to work on daily, Lucy, that cool lady who no one knows whether
she is married or not, will offer a lift. When the rumour hits the organization
that Lucy is offering Jack, the new employee lift, another female colleague may
counter her. This will leave the young man confused. Unless his fiancée
surfaces at the work place he will undergo manipulation and torture by her work
mates.
I know that real African man reading this
article is wondering whether this ever happens. Believe me or not that is the
modern trend. Forget about college and universities students who still in their
prime surviving under the sponsorship programs who worship man as if it is
everything and are ready to do anything until they enjoy the pleasures of this
world. This about those ladies who are looking for potentiality in a man, if is
money and other material possession she has them.
It is high time women should be considerate, he will just come for you if he is meant for you.