Is first date sex a deal-breaker?

Oh no! that seems to be the message the lady was putting across

BY MISS MANDI

NAIROBI: The dating game has ‘universal rules’ that personally, I think they are ridiculous!

Before you get it twisted, walk with me through what goes on in a couple’s mind during the first date sex.

While most women believe in the 30 day to 3 month rule, others, well, argue if there is chemistry between two consenting adults, then all they need to remember is to have safe sex.

First date can be really great or awkward, depending on how things go down in between the sheets.

Great sex can lead to either a serious relationship or ‘friends with benefits’ connection, which works for both. Meanwhile, awkward sex can lead to  ‘hit the road and never come back no more, no more!’

Most guys come from the school of thought that says, when a woman gives up the cookie on the first date, she is ‘loose’, ‘desperate’ or ‘ a bitch’.

Recently, my girlfriend came over to my house and confessed to ‘ never giving it up on the first date’.

Apparently, she believes a man must toil for 6 months before she agrees to hit the sheets. Most women I know are stuck up in this mentality.

My two-cents? “A man can break up with you after you give it up or even before you give it up.”

I do not support sleeping with every man, but it all boils down to what you are looking for in the relationship.

 There are those men whom you connect with immediately, others, you prefer to keep it the friendship energy while others, and a one-night stand will do. This is what matters.

Ladies, when you immediately rush into a physical relationship with someone, you cloud your judgment.

It may sound lame but creating that friendship bond is important especially if you see him a ‘hubby material’.

Knowing someone on a deeper level after first date sex is impossible.

Men are able to have first date sex and be applauded for it. Women have first date sex and are immediately judged in a negative light.

Notice how it’s only referred to as the “walk of shame” when a woman is coming home in the outfit she wore the previous night.  Bottom line is, if you are going to sleep with someone on the first date make sure you use protection and you are aware what your getting yourself into.

What’s your take on first date sex?

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