The women who don’t need men

By OYUNGA PALA

I recently talked to some young men who said, rather confidently, that he would prefer an open relationship with a woman. I just chuckled.

If the girls were to play tit for tat, most men would quickly redefine the boundaries of an open relationship. We get jealous too easily, even when there is no cause for concern.

And while women can comfortably adapt to the spare wheel role for the sake of the kids, men always insist on being on top, pardon the pun, even when they lack the stamina to sustain the position.

If you thought the female brain was stuck in the second gear of the traditional coupling mode, you are in for one hell of a surprise, pal.

The female in society has for the longest time, followed a predictable pattern where marriage was seen as the pinnacle, single motherhood the symbol of achievement and everyone else relegated to the backbenches of failed prospects.

The findings here are that some women are resisting the age-old narrow gender functions, and somehow, redefining the gender assigned roles.

These are the contemporary spinsters, and within its ranks are some very astute female brains that are not losing sleep over marriage.