Confusion is what one does to keep peace in polygamy

A throuple relationship. (Courtesy)

Many are wondering where the Gen Z mojo that was so hot went to. The Gen Z movement simply disintegrated because the medicine for greed had not been discovered yet. No doubt, selfishness is the fertile ground around which all social good fail to germinate, or rather the seeds rear their heads but do not form leaves, and if they form the first set of leaves, they wither immediately and dry up unceremoniously, ashes returning to ashes.

I don’t know if you all find it confusing to tell white from black especially when it is dawn on a moonlit morning.

You see, speeches can be written by experts who have enough intellectual barometers to test the expectations of masses. I mean, in the face of the Gen Z revolt every senator became a nationalist per excellence and expressed Pan African views in well-decorated words that would fix this country even if we all went to sleep and chose not to wake up to build its GDP. They all distanced themselves from the wrong and ugly contents of the Finance Bill, 2024 and vowed to do everything within their means to fix the mistake and pull this State out of the quagmire. Kenya’s Number One realised that friends are few when it matters most, but more especially the former chairman of the Christian Union learnt a few cardinal rules of managing a polygamy.

As the head of a mixed household, it is strategic to send mixed signals that leave everyone confused. There should be lack of harmony among the wives at all times to ensure that there is peace. Robert Green talks about unpredictability, and the 48 Laws of Power is a recommended read for any men left in this generation who has the guts to pull a polygamy stunt. By the way, in a world where a woman can sue you for forgetting her birthday, how does one even think he can casually sample different wells and maintain an underground casing that links one to the other? You have to be senior Atwoli or the great Oparanya to get away with such excesses and expect to continue walking above the surface of the earth! It is a Luhya thing. Luos can try it but the brothers from the lakefront are too romantic and predictable that they cannot follow the simple rule of maintaining confusion.

When Luos love Akinyi, they will shower her with gifts and hug her publicly in the full view of Anyango and Eucabeth. Just like that, World War Three breaks out and the place becomes inhabitable for him particularly. There is a good reason why men arrived home late after dusk and headed straight to a neutral place where each wife would come to great him and deliver food and news briefs to him independently. This gesture kept every woman peeping and guessing while trying to decide who took long with the man and what they could have been discussing.

Managing polygamy is like politics 101. The man has to be able to collect and collate the opinions of everyone to decide on the speech to deliver. The man has to be educated that information is power and public participation is a way of tapping into the true feelings and traps that the organization is or might experience in the future. You see, while holding these independent sessions with all players, they try to impress the king by serving sumptuous meals that would entice him to prioritise their interest, the interest of their bodily needs, the prioritisation of their children in terms of favours or even material investment.

The wives must be kept apart and starved of information, in most cases, to keep the home peaceful,. No common discussions or decisions should be called and the man, just like the senators, must perfect the art of delivering moving speeches and action tailor-made for every unique situation and wife. That is why Robert Green talks about cultivating an air of unpredictability. Well, the reason the Luos fail at this art of manipulation is because they fall in love with a woman. Polygamy requires that a man stays alive to facts and alert all the time. Like a top CEO keeping an eye of market trends and performances of competitors, such a man cannot afford to give a way his heart and emotions to one player.  He has to remain vague, ambiguous and selfish enough not to allow any common good agenda to germinate. Good ideas like that of Gen-Zs are founded when a regime is exposed and the commoners find ground for unity.

Also, remember to shuffle the Cabinet at will. In some days a rebel in mold of Mbadi, a sworn enemy of the State is granted the coveted Treasury and Baba is sent to Addis. In that state of confusion, the king can afford some time to rest and rethink as the opposition tries to adjust to the direction of the new progress. Talk of confusion promax!