When wedding turns as unplanned

By Esther Muchene

Often not every bride gets to have that hitch-free wedding.

Some wake up with a strange feeling the morning of the wedding, while others can’t stop worrying and fretting over every issue. Could this be a sign something may actually go wrong?

Linda got married last weekend in a lavish wedding affair that left many mouths open, but if only someone had taken the time and initiative to confirm whether all their guests got the invitation.

Apparently, the stationery vendor got sick and left someone in charge of the wordings and distribution of the cards. But as it turned out, some did not receive the invitation and to add insult to injury, the timing on the cards was wrong.

The bride had to wait five good hours as her bridal party and family made frantic calls to their guests. If a similar or worse situation were to happen, what would be the lesser evil?
• Delegate and let those in charge handle the matter. Involving yourself too much will only get you stressed out while you get on the way of those who are trying to save the situation.
• Look at the bigger picture as difficult as it may be. What is more important is the marriage institution rather than the wedding.
• Dip into your miscellaneous account-which every wedding should not lack as this will save time. It will make it easier to buy or hire whatever it is that is missing.
• Take five. Whatever it is that you do to calm down, engage in it as long as it will not interfere or affect your behaviour; such as getting drunk.
• If it’s a problem that can be solved without telling the guests, do so even if it means prolonging a service or entertainment say in the case of no show or delayed catering.
• If a major problem eats into the wedding programme timings, cut short the reception or service to compensate for more important activities.
• If a stain situation arises, use some chalk or baby powder for temporary cover up in the case of the bride’s gown or other hoping there is an emergency bag.