By Shirley Genga
Since time immemorial, men have never been too excited about walking down the isle.
While women dream about their wedding day from the moment they discover what a wedding is, men often have to be dragged down the altar kicking and screaming. For some reason, they view marriage as some sort of Maximum Security prison.
Last week, colleague Harold Oyodo wrote an interesting story suggesting some reasons why Kisumu men are no longer in a rush to walk down the aisle.
Teenage adulthood
Kisumu is not an isolated case. Look around and you will see many young and successful men who are not in a hurry to walk down the isle. In fact, they seem to be on some sort of ‘marriage strike’ and are holding on to being single for as long as they can.
Thus as you can imagine, finding a willing mate is quite a challenge for women, because there is no point in dating a man who isn’t taking you anywhere.
Rather than getting married, a majority of men today seem content to exist in a state I like to call, ‘teenage adulthood’, which is characterised by serial dating, unhealthy commitment to sports, binge drinking and general indifference to responsibility.?
All the above can be blamed on a number of things, but the biggest contributor in my book is the convenience of single life.
Men today are simply not in a hurry to walk down the isle because they can get all the benefits of marriage without the commitment and responsibility of being married.
Back in the day, men did not really have much of a choice when it came to getting married. Because they are apparently disabled in all things domestic, they had to settle down in order to accommodate their domestic deficiencies.
Fast-forward to the 21st Century, Nairobi City, and men today have a solution to domestic deficiencies. She is called: Mama nguo.
Mama nguo is the lady who has become the saviour for many single men today. She washes, cooks like mama and cleans at very affordable rates. She does not nag and comes over twice a week or only when she is needed.
A friend recently told me that Mama nguo was the best thing that ever happened to him, because now, he no longer has to put up with an annoying girlfriend in the name of cleaning clothes and good food.
In the last two years Mama nguo has quickly risen up the relationship hierarchy and become even more important to men than having a steady girlfriend. In fact, she often is the first person to get the spare key to a man’s bachelor pad — that is a testament to how important she has become.
Thus, while men continue to busk in their convenient bachelor state, women are being left to suffer through their single lives, tapping their feet impatiently as they wait for men to man up and walk them down the aisle.
And you wonder why are beating these fellows up?!
