By Shirley Genga
Men are fond of complaining that there no good girls left, and they are just interested in money.
You will never hear a bigger load of rubbish. Look around you. Who is getting dates? The chaste girl who loves church or the wild woman who is always half drunk and half dressed?
Even in marriage, the so-called good girl can’t hold her own the moment a ‘bad girl’ decides she wants her husband. Bad girls have men at their beck and a call. Men will to do anything for them.
Back in the Stone Age, the good girl probably had it all.
Poems
Praise songs were composed, poems written about her virtuous nature, her family was revered throughout the land and best of all, she got a wide selection of eligible men who came from all over the land to ask for her hand in marriage.
But that is no longer the case. The good girl can’t survive in the battlefield that love has become. She has no weapons, and neither does she know a thing about the art of war.
She has now become a doormat; the girl who loves and gives with all her heart and in the end gets nothing but empty promises, constant heartache and dirty laundry.
Naïve are the women who decide to be good, understanding and loyal wives who stand by their men no matter what. Such are the women who never ask for anything in return because they are just too humble and nice.
What they don’t know is that humble and nice pleases father-in-law but bores husbands to hell. Such women end up in tears when their man runs in pursuit of bad girls.
Being a bad girl, by the way, does mean you behave like soap opera villains who will do everything from plotting murder to stealing babies.
Loose
It is not about becoming the loose village girl. It simply means standing up for yourself.
For all those good girls who do not know how to be bad girl all is not lost because New York best-selling author Sherry Argov has made a fortune teaching good girls how to be bad. Her books include Why Men Marry B*tches and Why Men Love B*tches.
The author uses “b*tch” sarcastically. She does not use the word to refer to a woman who is mean, but a woman who does not give up her life for a man.
In the book she gives some pointers to good girls with the most important being, never forget ‘you’. The moment you forget ‘you’ and completely give your entire life to a man is the day you become the relationship doormat.
Just because you have a man does not mean all your dreams should die, that his hobbies should become yours, that you no longer have political opinions or that you must not have friends anymore.
Keep your life exactly as it was before, only add him to it. So go on — bad up girl.
